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life after hysterectomy

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kelly20688
kelly20688

In December 2013 I was given the devastating news I had to have an hysterectomy at the age of 33 this was quite alot to take in and what made it worse was the decision was out of my hsnds. I remember the Monday morning that I was told by the gynecologist I sat listening to what was going to happen taking in some bits of what he was saying while sitting thinking why me im to young then all of a sudden I burst into tears. I was told my surgery would be in the next few weeks because there was to big of a change the cancer would start to spread, so the next three weeks I trawled the Internet for help and advice but I only found it didn't help in fact it made things worse. I had my surgery on 17th of December and I can honestly say it's the worst thing I've ever done in my life, if I could go back I think I would have rather taken my chances of the cancer spreading then face the life of hell I seem to be living now,  its such a big life change I don't think people really realise just how much. I want other woman to realise that having this procedure isnt the answer to fixing your problems it only the start of problems to come.  Things got that bad for me I tried to commit suicide so I would strongly urge people to listen to my experience

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  • debbie00225
    debbie00225 kelly20688

    Posted

    Kelly you poor poor lady....im 37 and nearly 8 week post hystorectomy im am childless and although have encoutered a lot of problems i seem to be getting there now and actually starting to feel much better...have they offered u counceling huni....i also work for a hospice and taking your chances with cancer is a very risky thing to its a terrible disease and takes far too many ppl young and old...what you gotta focus on is your now healthy and your family still have you here and to loose you to the terrible big C would devestate your family amd friend. Life is very precious sweety .... be brave beautiful lady there are many people who would give anything to have had their cancer removed and gave a new lease of life xxxxxx enjoy life and live it to full xxx maybe get yourself aome help to come to terms with your situation

    Love and hugs and keep smiling its the most beautiful curve on a womans body xxx debbie

    • kelly20688
      kelly20688 debbie00225

      Posted

      Hi Debbie I know at times I should be greatful for what I have, but at times I get this black cloud over me its horrendous the hot flushes and mood swings are far worse than I ever imagined.  I've been put onto antidepressants and they don't seem to be making a difference I do have a odd good day. Im pleased to hear that your on the road to recovery now xxx
    • debbie00225
      debbie00225 kelly20688

      Posted

      I am suffering the flushes and still having every symptom of periods ..severe pain etc but feel 100% better than before op as the constant bleeding was maki g me so depressed.....i really hope you get sorted huni very soon ..... ♡ to you hun keep fighting and dont let it beat you xxx
  • helen72072
    helen72072 kelly20688

    Posted

    May I ask why it was the worst thing you've ever done? I had mine 9 weeks ago, leaving just one ovary, and I'm feeling much better than before the surgery because I had such severy bleeding and pain.
    • kelly20688
      kelly20688 helen72072

      Posted

      They say it's worse because both ovaries have been taken away so going through the change is horrendousim on hrt which I don't think is helping.
    • helen72072
      helen72072 kelly20688

      Posted

      Sorry, that you have to go through that! Will pray for things to get better for you!
  • donna2377
    donna2377 kelly20688

    Posted

    Hi kelly. I know how you're feeling. Im 10yrs post op, i had everything removed at 28 following 10yrs of endo and a cancer scare. I regret it everyday, the earlymenopause the weight gain, and the guilt of not being able to give my husband children.  I tried HRT but found i was oestrogen sensiitive and nearly had a stroke. Before the HRT i tried to put my car under a bus, the mood swings were horrendous so now im stuck between a rock and a hard place. If you ever need to talk please feel free xxx 
    • kelly20688
      kelly20688 donna2377

      Posted

      Hi donna thanks for your reply im.so sorry to hear about all what you have been through to. The mood swings are terrible I would do anything to have my body put back to how it was before I don't think they fully prepare you for what lies ahead its like an emotional roller coaster you can't get off it just keeps going and going.  fortunately I do have two children and I know I should be blessed for that but when I get that low I just don't know what to do with myself xxx
    • donna2377
      donna2377 kelly20688

      Posted

      Hi Kelly 

      They really don't prepare you you're right. I had counselling before mine but I think that was because of the childless thing but there should be more support after as well. I found all the info geared towards older women as well and I didn't know I could have had the op keyhole. 

      My mom had 2 kids before her op to (she had hers at 28 as well) but even now she's the same as you gets very low and misses the children she couldn't have. 

      It's an awful op it takes away all the things that make you a woman if you know what I mean. I've suffered with major low self esteem and confidence since my op because of the way it's left my stomach I've got a big apron of fat that I can't tone up because of the muscles that have been cut. My moms the same it's just awful having to tuck my belly in to my underwear every day so that really helps with the low moods.ive tried writing all my feelings down to help me get through it a bit more and have put it into a blog. Let me know if you want the link xx

      Sorry went a bit off track there. 

      If you need support or just want to sound off I can be a good sounding board. 

      I really hope you can turn a corner with the moods Hun I really it's not a good place to be in xxx 

    • kelly20688
      kelly20688 donna2377

      Posted

      Hi Donna I had my surgery done by key hole they told me that it was the easiest way to perform the hysterectomy and aapparently faster recovery which hasn't been true!! they did also  tell me that they couldn't guarantee it would definitely happen key hole until they got innside to see what was going on.

      Your poor mom aswell it must be hard for her watching her daughter go through what you are plus having to get herself through it aswell.  life just ain't fair at times.   

      Please send me the link that will be great

      Xxx

    • donna2377
      donna2377 kelly20688

      Posted

      Hiya

      i didnt even know keyhole was an option back then, sounds mad now but there wasnt a great deal out there kn the net back then (Facebook hd inly just started lol) it took me 3 months to recover.

      Its been a help to talk to my mom she knows what i feel like when friends get pregnant and im happy for them but want to sob for no reason. And she knows about the body issues.. Its definitley good to talk lol

      ive sent you the link hope you like it xxx 

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