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There has been a lot of talk on here about life events causing depression. Of course if you lose your job or marriage etc. you can end up depressed and I am not knocking that.
It's much more difficult to cope with depression when it stems from a dysfunctional upbringing and learned behaviour as a child. When things go wrong it is not the events which is causing it it is a learned response.
For example I suffer from very low self esteem and lack of confidence in myself and my abilities and worth as a person, so if anything goes wrong in my life I tend to deal with it in a negative way ie this confirms that I am worthless and don't deserve better.
To me this is true depression. It is very hard to unlearn things you learnt as a child. Yes you can do the therapy and change things in your life - that's the intellectual approach. The emotional approach is very different and extremely difficult (and sometimes downright impossible) to alter.
I have so many issues I have fought and partially won but I cannot fully change the emotional aspect. A good example of this is when I am called in to see my boss at work, I automatically think I have done something wrong and am on the defensive straight away. Ok I know all about the parent/child thing but it is so hard to fight the emotional fight. I end up exhausted battling with myself. And that is just one example. I have many others I have to fight on a daily basis and I believe this is the cause of my depression. I have insight into them but find it very hard to change them. It is definitely not boredom or unhappiness - it is true depression.
When I take meds I don't react so emotionally so even though they dull my senses this is much better than the alternative.
I don't know the answer and wish I did,
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