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I have been with my wife for 15 years and married for 5. She had her first bout of sever depression 10 years ago triggered by post natal and family trouble. After a year or so she recovered. Second child 5 years ago was great and she really settled in to it. Then after our 3rd child we had a lot of things go wrong in the first few weeks and we both found it hard. Then serious family stuff on her side arouse and sent from a functional depression to an unfuntioning sever depression. I have a full time job and with that, 3 kids and her depression it has been the hardest year of my life. I stuck with it and now after a year and a half she is showing signs of recovery but is still very changeable,moody and never seems to smile and laugh. But she is functional again so after 6 months of feeling like I done everything from looking after the kids, looking after her and going to work I feel some relief.
ok that's the background. Now I am looking for advice on how others have copped when their loved was depressed. Did you cope at all. What affect did it have. The problem I have is that I know it was not her fault but I hold resent for the fact I feel like I gave everything I had to keep the family going to the point it made me I'll with exhaustion. I don't know if I love her anymore but I can't tell if that's the anger from all that's happened. I feel I never got appreciation for sticking it all out when a lot of guys would have walked (in my opinion). I never and still don't blame her but I also have trouble reconciling the negative emotion left from the hardship I had over those months. Anyone else been in this situation. How did you get on. Any tips.
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