living with an alcoholic but I am too ill to leave

I am a 62 year old woman with health problems. My partner for 18 years is an alcoholic. It was tolerable when I worked full time because my social life revolved around work and my work friends. At 55 I became ill and can no longer work outside the house and my partner's drinking is becoming intolerable and yet, sadly I feel I can't leave him because I do not know many people in the state we are living and at times need help going to doctor appointments. I feel so stuck. I have threatened to leave him, pleaded with him to get help but he does not want help. He sits in the den drinking every night, goes out with his friends during the day and sometimes does not come home but stays at his friend's because he is too drunk to drive. I don't know how to get him to stop. He says he does not care, It is pretty hard having a normal conversation with someone who slurs his words, bullies and bluntly makes no sense after drinking We no longer have anything in common. He watches TV and drinks and I sit in the other room on the computer or reading or consulting when I can. I am wondering if anyone else with health problems is living with an alcoholic and how they manage.  He does not drink during the day unless he is with his friends but does drink vodka every night until he falls asleep.  His dirnking has destroyed our relationship and yet, I feel stuck and afraid to be alone due to my health issues. Living with a drinker makes you think you are the crazy one. When I feel able, I like to go out but no longer socialize with him because I am fearful of what he might say when he drinks. It is humiliating.  He is 67. and for the life me I can't even understand how someone 67 years old could handle drinking as much as he does. I am feeling lonely and defeated and not sure what to do  

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