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i have become a hermit i have not been out in 14 months im depressed and anxious all day and when i sleep i have the most horrid dreams i never get a break, doctor gave me venlafaxine im on week 3 of them i feel they help a little but its early days i suppose, i have been alone and depressed for so long i started to dislike the orld alot and i dont trust any one as they always seem to use me or abuse my kindness. i feel im at the end of my life thats it for me im just waiting to die. i long for a connection with some one but when i talk to people i just cant connect to them it feels empty, not sure what i am getting at just wanted to put my thoughts down. i used to have an amazing life i was a treee surgeon for 9 years had an amazing girlfriend and lots of friends but it all whent wrong and now im a no one a nothing just an other loser !!!

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    If you don't mind my asking, what happened to make you feel this way?
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    I am on Venlafaxine as well and it has helped me an awful lot.  It's maybe early days, or maybe you need to up the dosage, you should talk to your doctor if you are still feeling this bad in a couple of days.

    I have felt some of the things that are troubling you now, it's a terrible place to be, but it can be changed....it takes time and belief in your doctor and the medication they give to you.

    Wow, what an amazing job, being a tree surgeon.   That is such a special vocation.  You must not waste that special knowlege.  You are not a loser, you are just lost at the moment.....you will find your way again.  Trust in the specialists who can help you and be patient.

    Keep posting, I will look out for you.  You can beat this.

    Pat xxx

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      hi patricia im glad to see some one else on here that have positive things to say about venlafaxine im on 225mg a day and its made a real difference to me im working and socialising thanks to my doctor putting me on it ! take care david
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    hi there sorry to see how unwell you are but youve made the first thing in getting better im sorry but its amazing the amount of people that say they are a losers instead of picking them selfs up and start anew stonger than ever before ! regards the venlafaxine i dont know what dose your on but its still early days give it another 2/3weeks and hopefully you will start to feel better ! im on venlafaxine 225mgand ot does work for me ! good luck and i wish you well stay in touch david
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    I feel the same way. I only go out of my apartment to see my doctor. I lost my legs so I can't drive. I have a caregiver that comes three times a week. I started Venlafaxine almost three months ago and am now on 375mg daily (five of the 75mg tabs) and am doing better. I had a okay day yesterday and today so far is okay.

    I went through a lot of side effects with the Venlafaxine at first but just kept on with it and my body is alright now. I keep thinking that this is it's going to get. I had a wife and a son but lost them in 1997. It's strange but I emailed my ex best friend who I haven't seen in ten years and got a message from him this morning. Not trying to renew a friendship but it was good to be thought of. I'm in bed for all but 20 minutes or so a day. I eat cheese, crackers, applesauce and ice cream nothing that I have to prepare.

    I don't know if I'll get better or not. I spent three years in a mental hospital from 1999-2002. I don't want to go back there. I just can't think about suicide. Too much trouble. The only thing that I can tell you is that I know what you feel because I feel exactly the same and to continue to take the Venlafaxine. ECT also worked for me back in 2000 and 2001/ You may want to ask your doctor.

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    I'm going through hell after having a baby postnatal anxiety depression and ocd and I just want to send my love really as having a mental illness is the worst thing iv ever had to go through. It's a huge struggle but I will get there I will not let it take me
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    I think you have to appoint a caregiver for yourself and keep busy as much as you can.
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