Long Relationship & depression and anxiety
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can depression and anxiety make you feel like you and your partner no longer are in love?
we have been together almost 5 years and have a 3 year old.
we have never had issues until my mental health got bad & lockdown came around...
i feel like we love eachother but were not "IN LOVE" like we have lost that spark, none of us make any effort to make eachother happy anymore, id rather be out the house, he hasnt got mental health but never wants to do anything or go out etc
we have also had a problem with him being WAY to lenient on our 3 year old resulting in great stress for me and our daughter as due to his over leniency she is very badly behaved when we are around him, and he doesnt listen to a word i say when it comes to that.
we both sit on our phones 24/7, never hug or kiss hardly anymore and sex is outright out of the question (due to me never having the drive)
i just dont know if our relationship is truly broken or if its just becuase of my mental health and lockdown combined... we were a proper team before all this and now it just feels like we just live with eachother and thats it... but before my MH i know we were so great together such a good team and proper loved eachother but now it feels lile we have grown completely apart and its all i ever think about 😞😞😞
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sam18386 emilyroma98
Posted
hi emilyroma, oh dear i don't know exactly what happened but it sounds like lockdown has left you both out of love. if you need to you may need to go back to old-fashioned techniques and ise them to respark your love for each other or sadly decide to part? sorry but that's how bad it sounds! you need a real heart to heart.... good luck whatever you decide.
emilyroma98 sam18386
Posted
the thing is, i dont want to split up with him, i knoe in my heart i dont as we were once an amazing team, however its ONLY since my mental health issues continued to be a more long term issue that ive been thinking like this, and obviously lockdown & covid doesnt help
sam18386 emilyroma98
Posted
hi emilyroma, oh bless you! you give your self some time some space and a bit of sympathy. you see what you can do for you - mindfulness? yoga? Pilates? anything to stop you feel so bad. i wish you luck, what does your partner think about this?
joshuapryce1987 emilyroma98
Posted
Depression effects the one who is depressed, it doesnt effect the other person involved. The other person may love you unconditionally and you would see that because you are depressed, this is what depression does. Fight it. Repel it. Work on intimacy and take it from there, you may need to come out of your comfort zone and make the first moves more often.