Looking for something positive

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I am hoping that someone on here will be able to give me something positive to hold on to. My husband has been suffering with anxiety/depression for a few months he has not had this before, He has disappeared recently on a couple of occasions with the police locating him. The last time he disappeared a week ago he was sectioned and is currently in hospital. I haven't seen or spoke to him in a week and when i phone the hospital they just tell me he is up and about but not engaging with anyone. I am struggling to cope with the situation and it feels like he will never come home or be the same again and if he will be able to return to his work. I am worried about him coming home as will be on high alert in case he goes off again and I know he has thought about suicide so am terrified he may succeed. We have a daughter who is not coping without her dad. It just seems to me that he isn't even trying right now to accept the help. Can anyone give me anything positive as I am really struggling and don't know what to do to help him.

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    i’m so sorry. Are you able to discuss this with the Doctor Who is treating him at the hospital? Seems like they would want to talk to you also.?

    The doctor or psychiatrist should be discussing with you what could possibly be going on.

    A couple questions.

    did your husband have any recent major negative events in his life? such as issues with his job, etc

    in the past has he openly communicated with you about things he is concerned about such as work, finance, etc.? he might have been keeping those things inside himself and then it just got worse and he experienced anxiety and depression coming on. Something may just be so overwhelming that’s why it’s important for him to talk to somebody. depression and anxiety often go hand-in-hand

    I’m hoping there is a psychiatrist or psychologist who is trying to get through to him at least a little bit. those are the things that you can find out.

    write down a list of questions you have for the Doctor Who is treating him or doctors. and make sure you get the answers that you are looking for. You have the right to know what’s going on.

    bottom line is that there is definitely hope that he will improve with proper care and treatment. He may need ongoing counseling when he gets home and he can do that virtually if he likes. He’s going to need a lot of support.

    does he have family other than you and your child? Parents? Siblings? Or good friends? That he can vent to when he needs.

    hope this helps a little bit but remember to take one day at a time don’t look too far into the future because that overwhelms people. It sure does me. One step at a time. make sure you’re taking care of yourself and maybe even your child could use a little counseling because children tend to blame themselves in these situations. Tell your child that none of this is her fault. And that her daddy is getting some help. Things like that. Take care and we are here for you ❤

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    Hi. i am so aoyrry you are all.going through this. Mental Health is a very cruel and debilitating disease. I suffer with anxiety and I know how hard it is to deal with every day. I am also aware of how hard it is for the family and friends around you. Have you spoken to your GP about some supprt and help for you?? Do you have any family and friends around you?

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