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Losing my virginity and getting herpes ...

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Sansan93
Sansan93

I've recently got the new two weeks ago and they've been the hardest two weeks of my life going thorough depression to the highest level telling my family they've been going through a hard time as well. I'm Muslim meaning i have a strict belief system on sex before marriage. I lost my virginity to the one guy I've ever had the most feelings for in my life I've only been interested with one guy I never dated this guy he is 6 years older then me I'm only 21 he never took me seriously we had one night and it wasn't even full sex he didn't break my seal , then I find out be gave me herpes he didn't know it though, I contacted him about it but Ive been all alone dealing with this gyno appointments no one to really express my anger and feelings to because I have to be strong for my family and I don't want to keep burdening my best friends with my sad story but I need time to fully heal from this .

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  • Unlucky
    Unlucky Sansan93

    Posted

    Hi Sanson, I read your post and my heart went out to you.  I also grew up in a religious environment (not islamic) though I can't say I am being how I was raised to be.  I am a virgin by most peoples definition.  Recently I accidentally gave myself Genital herpes from my own saliva.  I see other people around me having sex like crazy with multiple partners and I accidentally gave myself genital herpes from my own saliva.  I know you must feel like you are incredibly unlucky.  I too feel unlucky.  I know too that at your age of 21 the pain must be incredible.  Abraham Lincoln once wrote a letter to a girl who had lost her father.  He had suffered himself seriously with depression.  One of the things he said to her is that eventually you will feel better and that sometimes just realizing that can help you start to feel better immediately.  I want to tell you Sansan that this will not destroy your life.  This is not the end.  You will feel better.  Some pain takes time to weaken but this pain will weaken.  Many people have this condition.  You are not alone.  You will find someone that loves you and accepts you.

    You have hope.  Don't forget that.  You have hope.  You will feel better in time.

    • Sansan93
      Sansan93 Unlucky

      Posted

      I'm dealing with the part that i have herpes but the part that is destroying me that I got it from someone who wasn't even my bf who has a gf right now as we speak I just feel alone and you know the sickest part of this .. That I still have feelings for him..
    • princess52104
      princess52104 Sansan93

      Posted

      Wow our situations or so much of the same I was with my ex bf for 4 long years i hooked up with him when i was 18 years old he was 23 at the time it hurted me so bad because he was my first everything i loved him so much and to only find out 11/11/14 im herpes positive crushed my world .
    • Sansan93
      Sansan93 princess52104

      Posted

      It really does hurt I had sex 5 months ago but I get herpes 2 weeks ago .. It's tough love and all itself now a living virus
  • wassimsalam
    wassimsalam Sansan93

    Posted

    Salamwaalaykoum, hello sister I'm in a similar situation as you. This is all a test from Allah swt. Everything is written out already. Please turn to Allah for guidance. If you are interested in marriage inshAllah please message me. Thank you.

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