Loss of affection

Please dont worry i have suffered depression and anxiety after a misscarage in 97 and had a few bouts since.

right about oct i started again and still not well gone from prozac which ive been on for 9 yrs. this time ive tried citalopram 8wks did nothing and i am now on sertraline 2wks 3days i dont feel well at all but by 7pm iam lot better. this distancing thing what your partener is experiencing is normal it will pass as he gets better, there is no quick fix unfortunatly. be paitent and get advice on how to help him and cope yourself.

please ask more if you need your not on your own!

I'm taking Sertraline and I guess my outward display of emotions are the same as you are experiencing with your partner. I feel cold and have little drive to have physical contact with my wife or children.

I can offer no advise, just say its not you, or him. Help him get through this and once he's off the medication I guess things will return to 'normal'

I used to take sertraline about 18months ago, personally I found that it did lift my mood and make me feel better but I wasnt affectionate at all, when I normally used to be. I took them for a few months and looking back at how I was after, I feel that it effected my relationships with people. I'm not sure that its this way for everyone, but it's the reason why I worry about taking any similar drug again. I dont want to disance myself but I find I do. However, it may not be the sertraline that makes him that way, but in fact the reason that he is taking them, depression makes people that way. Maybe its a good idea to discuss alternative drugs with your gp.

Hope that helps!

[quote:7763842c7f=\"Rk20\"]I used to take sertraline about 18months ago, personally I found that it did lift my mood and make me feel better but I wasnt affectionate at all, when I normally used to be. I took them for a few months and looking back at how I was after, I feel that it effected my relationships with people. I'm not sure that its this way for everyone, but it's the reason why I worry about taking any similar drug again. I dont want to disance myself but I find I do. However, it may not be the sertraline that makes him that way, but in fact the reason that he is taking them, depression makes people that way. Maybe its a good idea to discuss alternative drugs with your gp.

Hope that helps![/quote:7763842c7f]

Hi Just reading about peoples experiences about affection. From my experience this happens when people are not just depressed, but also when being trated, for a while. The other issue for men is that of losing the errection for a while, or this happens when you least need it! ironic!

I have taken only 2 types of anti-depressants and have found they both have an efect on the way you feel for people, and the contact you make. Its part of the illness, but when trated appropriate, those feelings come back again. This just takes time.

In regards to the person who mentioned about the wedding coming up in a few months, im sure you have thought about what impact such a stressful event can have when the other person is feeling depressed. Pressure when your depressed can sometimes make it worse. Hoe about having a discussion about this with your partner?. Also try talking therapy (counselling) as depression comes from somewhere, which needs to be identified and talked about. CBT is also very favourable.

Hope this helps.