Loss of hope
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i think I need to off load apologies I hate doing this. I can’t stop crying and I’ve worked out that episodes in my life we’re I have felt periods of down time have been usually caused not by psyche but my external influences but I always had hope. I have realised that I have now lost hope. Yesterday I just stood in front of a mirror and literally hate myself, that’s me being honest, hopeless, useless complete utter waste of space. I am very alone in these thoughts, no support and in fact no one knows I feel like this as I am so good at hiding it. How do we get hope that’s gone? No amount of mindfulness is going to get it back. No amount of chatting to someone explaining how I feel is going to want them to listen, everyone has their own problems and things to worry about and so where is the hope?
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pamela51740 sue162
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Hi Sue please don't suffer in silence, you are not worthless it's anxiety and depression making these horrible thoughts! Please tell your family and doctor the way you feel and seek help immediately. I bet your family love you & life wouldn't be the same without you. Are you on any medication? Xx
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pamela51740 sue162
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Hi Sue I think you have been depressed far too long and meditation would help a lot! (Could even change your life for the best) I know it's horrible being fake and pretending you are ok, please don't give a monkeys what your partner and family say, it's your mental wellbeing that is important, if left untreated the depression will just spiral out of control, I really want to give you a big hug and say everything is going to be OK. Please seek medical advise, I know the time is short with your doctor, but please tell your doctor everything and take your time telling him, don't rush thinking you have only got a few minutes with him. Honestly medication will make you feel so much better xx
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pamela51740 sue162
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Hi Sue I cry all the time lately at the doctors lol I just put on sunglasses and please don't care what other people think, there could be someone sat there feeling the same way you do also doctors are their to help! I know side effects of antidepressants aren't very nice but it will only last a week or so then you start feeling better! What's one or two weeks of side effects when you have been depressed for so long! Please, you will see light at the end of the tunnel and things will get better i promise x
jan34534 sue162
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Sue, I was also very good at hiding those feelings for many many years, actually starting in elementary school! I had no reason to lack confidence or feel shy or scared or anxious because I had a wonderful family life. But year after year after year of hiding my feelings in worrying about what other people thought took it’s toll on me .
I literally suffered through school and college and any jobs I held. I felt like nobody else was like me at all it seemed. People just went about their lives went to work and for me it was pure misery. That’s why I stayed home and raise my kids because I just couldn’t cope out in the world .
One thing that did help me vent my feelings and get some feedback and regain hope and help was speaking to a counselor
I know you don’t want to do that and I did have to go through several before I found one that I liked. At least I didn’t feel so isolated when I talked to the counselor.
I learned that in order to regain hope, we need to start out by setting some small achievable goals and this is where counselor can help.
Some ideas are
-fight against negative thoughts. Such as “there’s no hope.“ Substitute constructive thoughts such as “what’s one positive thing I can do for myself today, right now“
-surround yourself with positive things, people, music, etc.
-Get rid of “what if“ thinking. it helps to write things down daily such as reconnecting with yourself by jotting down “what are my goals?“ Remind yourself of your goals and your purpose daily and take small steps every day to accomplish something small.
I would write down specific things that I’m upset about. Whether it’s my job, relationship, etc. that helps me deal with One thing at a time so its not so overwhelming.and where a trained counselor can help you through this.
-don’t be alone with your feelings of hopelessness. You only have your one perspective and other people can help you find new opportunities, insight that you may be overlooking.
-be open to medication. Sometimes it’s just short term to get you through some rough times.
-Don’t isolate yourself because when I did that I got lost in my thoughts and everything got worse. There is so much help out there! If I did not reach out and find someone to talk to talk to, I would still be completely miserable and isolated. I encourage you to do the same.
it doesn’t matter what others think. This is your life. It’s your time to feel better. Be a fighter for yourself.
-Hope is not something that can be lost because there is ALWAYS HOPE.🌸🌸🌸🌸
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