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Lovely Hippies I need your advice about christmas please.... :0

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rose0000
rose0000

I have a dilemma....please advise if you have a moment...

My consultant has said I can have my hip replacement at the beginning of Dec (as my three month wait is up after the steroid injections) but will it completely ruin any chances of me enjoying my christmas with my baby girls? I will be approx 3 weeks into it all, so not sure how I will be. Every christmas is precious when they are young... but I will have plenty of support over christmas from my husband will be home and friends and family who will all be on holiday and around (thus making it easier)

Or

Do I keep taking the morphine, even though it isn't working so well this week and I am back to being up alot in the night and now need to increase my dosage. I am worried the pain relief after the operation won't work as well if I need to keep taking more and more morphine now. I will have the op in Jan, but won't have the same level of support....

What would you do?

 

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  • Rocketman_SG6UK
    Rocketman_SG6UK rose0000

    Posted

    The opst-op pain is so different to the pre-op pain.

    Pre-op the pain was located at the femoral head, where it was grinding into the pelvis.

    Post-op, at least for me, the ache (and it is no more than that now), is where the femoral head was chopped off at the top of the thigh. This is now only apparent when I over do the walking - as I did yesterday - and easily overcome with a couple of paracetamol.

    Regards

    Graham​

  • renee01952
    renee01952 rose0000

    Posted

    eekeekeek  congratulations darling .. that was a big step, a big, courageous decision - 

    you have changed before my very eyes from a frightened kitten into a lioness ... you are more than ready now ...

    love and angel blessings 

    renee

     

    • rose0000
      rose0000 renee01952

      Posted

      Thank you so mcuh Renee.....I hope I can stay a lioness! I can be both in a single hour when I think about it too much! xx
    • rose0000
      rose0000 maggie93798

      Posted

      Maggie

      My husband goes back to work after christmas, I will be approx 4 and a half weeks post op. Do you think I will be able to care for the children on my own? Or shall I try and arrange for someone to help me? I know I won't be able to drive them anywhere but was wondering if I would be able to look after them at home? They do not go back to school to mid Jan....! Which is good as I won't have to worry about getting them to school, but will need to entertain them for 14 hours a day smile 

      Thank you for your post Maggie, I am not sure what is left without a sense of humour!! It can get you through the bleakest moments 

    • Rocketman_SG6UK
      Rocketman_SG6UK rose0000

      Posted

      Rose,

      By 4.5 weeks, you will be alot better, but it depends on their age, I would advise getting as much help as you can, like having someone you can call if you need help.

      I am so thankful my wife is retired and able to be with me, at least in between her volunteering commitments.

      Whatever you do, try not to over do the housework, cleaning, cooking etc, you will need plenty of rest to allow your body to recover.

      Best wishes

      ​Graham

    • maggie93798
      maggie93798 rose0000

      Posted

      By 4.5 weeks you will be much more mobile, but probably still prone to the tiredness, at least I was. So with a bit of planning, like school uniforms out the night before, play dates away from home or with another adult in your house etc you should be well on the way. You may find your children will love to help, make sure you are comfortable etc as much as they are able. I wouls still have a plan B, helpful friend family member available some of the time so that you can have the odd nap
  • Kikeena
    Kikeena rose0000

    Posted

    This is a parenting comment, so may be out of bounds for a hip site. As a mother I battled between doing everything for my kids and looking after myself. Then I realised that I wanted to teach them to look after themselves when they were mothers, and not to do everything for their kids. So I had to set an example.

    They're parents themselves now, and I'm pleased to see the balance they have in looking after themselves and looking after the kids.

    Keena

    • Gossip
      Gossip Kikeena

      Posted

      My two had to grow up quickly in the last 11 years & it did them no harm. They were spoilt rotten. Never had chores etc. Then I had breast cancer in 2004. Months of chemo & radiation. But life had to carry on as normal as possible for them. 1st hip replacement September this year & 2nd hip in January 2016. They still do their own thing aged 22 & almost 20 but have grown up to be more selfless. They still have a great grandmother 89 & my mum 72 to give them a reality check. They both don't live at home & have their own lives (as it should be) but help out when needed. I hated asking them to help out but that was me not wanting to give up independence.
    • rose0000
      rose0000 Kikeena

      Posted

      My children have had to be independent in the last few years, simply because I have not been able to do everything, so thankfully they have learnt how to manage themselves pretty well. I have AS so sometimes they dress me and not the other way around if I am having  a flare. 

      This feels different because I will be away from them for the first time. I dont want to feel traumatised by it. I so wish it wasn't happening to be honest. Particularly my little one is so attached. I am sure in some ways it will be good for them. I will try and make it as positive as I can for them.

    • rose0000
      rose0000 Gossip

      Posted

      I can understand that, and you are right it is a great life skill and quality to feel compassion and empathy for another. It also teaches life is not a bed of roses and there will be bumps along the way. We all try to keep childhood carefree but I am sure some adversity is no bad thing, and prepares them well for adulthood, which is far from straight forward! Especially health failures! smile

      I hope I can teach them courage and bravery by being a good example, just as my grandmother and mother showed me. 

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