m.e... snubbed by gps and written off !!!

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My sister has been diagnosed with m.e its been quite difficult watching someone who once was full of life and energy to struggle every day. Theres no help out there for sufferes but a cold shoulder from a medical perspective they dont have the answer in the book ,their swept under the carpet !why isnt there funding to get to the root of this soul destroying condition ?if anyone has any links or info on reaserch itd be greatly appreciated .

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    Hi there,

    Has your sister joined the ME society? There is plenty of information there and they do update on current research. There are cfs/me specialist services provided but, not everywhere unfortunately. Ask the doctors if there is and can your sister can be referred? I can see how angry you are on her behalf and its great she has such support from you.

    Hope what I've said helps

    B

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      Thank you bev ....its somthing im definatly going to get her intouch with ...its not only the illness itself its the emotional /mental affect it has on her aswell ...i think a forum like this is great to share and see the struggles that come with this illness ..as she feels very alone as it is an illness that so few people understand .
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      It Is a good place to share stuff. It took me a while to come on here and I did so for entirely that reason-a common understanding. Saying that, everyone is different and we all experience things in our own way. Sometimes it can seem so hard having this condition. I've found that people just want you to be well. Its hard when you're not for whatever the reason. I'm glad your sister has you there. It's tough for you too, like you say watching her change with this.

      I hope you can both enjoy Christmas this year and not let m.e. get you down.

      Best wishes

      B

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      Thank you beverley i appreciate your kind and supportive words ...its assuring to know there are others out there to ....i wish you a good christmas also .
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      Thank you. hope your sister at least gets some support from the nearest cfs/me service. Keep us posted. I think a significant part of dealing with this condition is a need to feel supported. I know it has been for me particularly in the early days. Even family and old friends don't always 'get it' . also, it seems to be our job to educate people? The m.e. society produce a leaflet to give to people and so does the cfs/me clinic I attend. I know neither of these take away any of what it is to have this but, its a start.

      Best wishes

      B

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    I've lived with ME/CFS for over 15 years, and I agree that it's very disheartening that the medical community has done virtually nothing to find a treatment. One organization in the U.S. that advocates for patients and provides funding for research is The Solve ME/CFS Initiative. You can go on their website for information about the illness.
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      Thanks for your reply jackie she has suffered for a couple of years now yet only in the last 12 been confirmed of a diagnosis. Just seems theres so little help out there and the fear of never over coming this illness and the stigma that follows with it ! Thank you for the link .
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    Hi,

    Unfortunately a lot of GPs and even specialists I have come into contact with have had this attitude, which sadly makes M.E. even more difficult to live with. I have come to find that unless you live with the condition or know someone who lives with it, people tend to have no desire to understand it. I have done a lot of reading about various theories and treatments etc. One of the things I have found that seems to make perfect sense to me is the research into poor mitochondrial function in M.E. patients. I have mentioned this to my GP and she didn't know such research existed, I am going to try again tomorrow and then speak to the M.E. specialist about it in the hope that there may be something someone can do. From what I have read, I believe that most of the research into the condition has not had much funding behind it, or a large enough 'evidence base' and therefore has failed to be taken into account by NICE/NHS. The whole approach to the condition is absolutely unbelievable, 250,000 in the UK alone are suffering and yet it is so poorly understood. If the government funded the necessary research in order to find a treatment for the condition can you imagine what that would do for the economy! 250,000 people who could potentially go back to work (if the condition has stopped them from working) meaning they could contribute to the economy AND not have to rely on social security. People could work full time again, become successful high earners, relieve the strain on the NHS. I feel so passionately about this as every single person I have met, spoke to or read about with M.E. has such passion for life and so desperately wants to get back to their normal self so they can work hard again and enjoy their life and no loner feel like a burden. It just seems completely bizarre to me that this isn't recognised by government as a huge public health issue. I have been signed off work for almost 3 months now and am about to lose my job because of the condition. After working so hard for my degree to ultimately become successful in my career, I am now looking into my options in terms of social security. To think that this situation happens to so many thousands of people and there is so little support is astounding.

    Here are some links to the research I mentioned:

    http://www.meassociation.org.uk/2015/04/mitochondrial-dysfunction-and-the-role-of-cytokines-in-mecfs-preliminary-results-from-research-being-funded-by-the-mea-ramsay-research-fund-and-the-medical-research-council-2-april-2015/

    http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S221464741400004X

    Also, from my experience I have had to request to see specialists such as an M.E. specialist. I am still on the waiting list to see this specialist as there is only one in the whole of Merseyside and Cheshire. They are so few and far between that my GP was not even aware he existed. But my advice to you and your sister would be to look on the Internet, specifically the ME association website and look for the specialist in your area and ask the GP to be referred to them. If nothing else, the referral may at least provide some hope, I feel it has done for me.

    Hope this helps x

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      Amber. I live in the U.S., and I, too, am amazed and disheartened by how little is known about ME/CFS. Here, our government funds this illness at a lower level than hayfever! I've had ME/CFS for over 15 years, and I still hear stories all the time about patients not being taken seriously, and being told it's all in their heads. Or that they are really depressed and have nothing physically wrong. It's estimated that as many as 1 million people have the illness in the U.S., and as many as 17 million worldwide. I think it's really a silent epidemic. A very good website can be found by Googling "the solve ME/CFS initiative." 
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      Hi Amber,

      Please keep us posted about the specialist. I was referred to the CFS clinic in Liverpool about 5-6 years ago bu,t to be honest, they didn't tell me much that I didn't already know, and weren't able to answer my questions, but my husband found it useful. However, I would be interested to know if they have changed in the intervening years in terms of advice/guidance/follow up etc.

      Thanks

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    Many GP practices can refer to a chronic fatigue course I believe, although I have to admit I wasn't when first diagnosed. I had just had a baby but with 3 much older sibling and husband's elderly aunt I didn't have the time. I'm sorry but as I don't know her age, all you can do is to watch her. It's wonderful that you care.
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      She has been to cerain pain clinics but not founf them to be that helpful ....shes 36 and as you say with family life its very difficult .
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    Sorry to hear about the condition. Try to support her as much as you can. Maybe she can improve. I havent my diagnosis yet but seams like going in this direction fast. Maybe it can be cured in a near future.
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    It is difficult. tbh, there probably has been an improvement recently, in that more doctors are acknowledging that they have no idea what to do about CFS - meanng that theres a (somewhat) reduction in the unhelpful and inaccurate advice that had been given previously.

    The Institute of Medicine has recently released a big report summarising the state of affairs, saying that change and more research funding is needed. If interested you could search for 'Beyond Myalgic Encephalomyelitis/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome: Redefining an Illness'.

    Psychology Professor James Coyne has recently started picking apart some important poor quality research. You could google that if you're interested in some scandal and excitement.

    That people are being more honest about the dire state of medical approaches to CFS is a hopeful sign that things may be about to improve a bit, but it's a distressing thing to come upon for those who have recently fallen ill and expect medicine to be more useful than it is.

    Hopefully your sister wll be one of the people who naturally recover (we don't know why) - this does not seem uncommon for people who are only ill for a short period of time (roughly under 18 months, but again, research on this is not great either). I could also be that your sister has an identifiable alternative disagnosis - these can often be missed, so it's worth trying to get possibilities explored and checked out. Best wishes to you and your sister.

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