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26 years old athelitic , no health problems , no chronic diseases , facing problem to maintain erection during intercourse
It's really embarrasing and don't know what to do ?
Any advice
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ml66uk ahmed41562
Posted
That seems quite young to be having such problems. Some questions:
How long has this been an issue?
Do you have a problem getting hard, or staying hard or both?
Once it goes soft, will it ever go hard again in the next ten minutes, or do you have to wait a few hours?.
Is it an issue every time, or just sometimes?
How often do you have intercourse?
Roughly how long can you last without problems?
Do you have problems if you masturbate?
Are you under a lot of stress?
If you're taking any medications or street drugs, that could be having an effect, but if not, then you should probably see your GP, or if you're in the UK, you could go to a genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinic - google "GUM clinic near me" for details.
Disclaimer: I'm not a doctor.
ahmed41562 ml66uk
Posted
I've had this issue like a year to a year and a half ago !
-My problem is not to how to get hard , i get hard easily , but i can't stay hard for the whole inter coarse till i ejaculate .
-This issue is mainly 90% of times , and yes it can get hard again after it gets soft during the 10 min if i hadn't ejaculated yet , if i ejaculated i usually have to wait for a pretty longer time .
-I'm single now so I don't usually have intercourse but am really afraid to go into a relationship because of this issue , last time i had intercoarse was 4 months ago and i had the same problem .
-And i can last without problems as long as i'm very aroused like few minutes .
- I have this same problem during masturbation .
-I'm under the regular life stress but this issue is making me overstressed , whenever i think of having sex , i think of that .
-I never had this problem before 1.5-2 years ,i tried viagra once and the problem was re-solved but i don't feel comfortable using any meds at this young age . I don't take any street meds or any supplements .
-I went to a physician once and he told me i have no physical issues and to forget it but it doesn't work .
Thanks
ml66uk ahmed41562
Posted
When you saw a doctor, what tests did they do to rule out a physical cause? If they didn't do any, then I'd either find another doctor, or go back and hope they take it more seriously.
At the very least, they could prescribe you some Viagra or similar. You're a lot younger than the target market for ED drugs, and I'd take the minimum dose necessary if I were you (or split the pills into halves or quarters), but they will probably fix the problem, and help you get over the stress of being in bed with a new partner for the first time. If you're in Europe, Viagra is a lot cheaper since generics became available btw, but that won't happen in the USA tlll December 2017.
If you can get hard again soon after it goes soft, then that does make it more likely to be a psychological problem rather than physical/endocrinal, and worrying about it will probably make things worse, but I know that doesn't necessarily help you. It's normal for it to take anything from 15 minutes to several hours to get hard again after ejculating btw, and it's called the "refractory period".
These links may help - the second one is written for doctors:
https://patient.info/health/erectile-dysfunction-impotence
https://patient.info/doctor/erectile-dysfunction
ahmed41562 ml66uk
Posted
Thanks for your reply !
He tested my genitals physically by his hands and sight , he is a professor so i think he quite knows what he was saying and i know it's a psychological problem rather than a physical problem . And i can't accept the idea of taking ED pills not because of the price but i think am quite young to be taking Viagra even half or quarter .
So i was asking is there any way to overcome this psychological problem without taking pills , i think that problem happened when i was younger and i had sex with a girl and i ejaculated fast so i didn't know by then that this is normal when am very excited ..
Nowi'm mature and i'm informative about sexual process yet i can't overcome this problem .
I'll appreciate any advice and i'm in usa not uk .
Thanks
ml66uk ahmed41562
Posted
It probably is psychological, but a lot of problems simply don't show up with a physical exam, so I would have expected him to have checked your blood pressure, and had some blood and urine tests done. Once you've ruled out a physiological problem, you could google "erectile dysfunction psychological treatment techniques" and see if anything there works for you.
If it doesn't, I'd give viagra or something similar a try, but I'd definitely go back to the doctor first, or try another doctor.
Premature ejculation is almost normal for younger men, so I wouldn't worry about that too much. I had a girlfriend who said that one of best lovers she ever had never lasted longer than 30 seconds btw, but because of that, he was apparently great at extended foreplay.
ahmed41562 ml66uk
Posted
He did blood pressure , bl glucose , testosterone level blood tests ,
All was normal .
So that's why it's psychological !
Anyhow thanks for trying to help !
I'll google more about it ! Hope it works without pills , don't wanna take pills from now !
It's like a night mare to me !
And i do know that premature ejaculation isn't a problem and it's normal and actually now i don't suffer from premature ehaculation i lasts pretty good , the problem with the erection and i HATE PILLS !
ml66uk ahmed41562
Posted
Oh ok, it sounded like he'd just done a visual and manual examination. Psychological problems can be harder to fix, or might just disappear by themselves for no apparent reason, and there's definitely the catch-22 thing where just thinking about it can make things worse. Even if you don't like pills, then if you think you might get lucky, I'd take along some Viagra or similar as a backup. Viagra works quite fast (faster than cialis and levitra), so if things don't work out, you could take a bathroom break, and be back in action within half an hour. If it's psychological, then being with someone for the first time could make things more difficult, but just knowing you have a plan B might mean you never need it. The ED drugs have minimal side-effects, and aren't addictive, but as ever, don't just order it off the internet without seeing a doctor, and be aware of the side-effects and contra-indications.
ahmed41562 ml66uk
Posted
I think i can overcome this without pills , i'll try to work on my self more or see a psychologist .
And i'll make the viagra as a plan B ..
Many thanks again for your help !
ahmed41562
Posted
Have a new year all
ken619 ahmed41562
Posted
I tend to be practical because I don't have the technical knowledge that ml66uk has, so here is my suggestion.
There may still be something physical, and I'm sure that adds to the psychological problem, but a physical thing that you can overcome. Perhaps many of us have the same problem, didn't recognize it, and developed their own routine/solution.
I am older than you, but have experienced the same thing. So my practical solution was to engage in longer foreplay. I have found that the longer the foreplay, the more hard, and longer lasting. So perhaps plan on becoming the best lover ever and develop your foreplay skills. After all, if you feel your friend weakening, you can always return to some foreplay focusing on your partner without them noticing.
Another thing, (that will force you to not be embarrassed about this) you CAN have an ejaculation even if you are not hard. Not during insertive intercourse, but there are lots of other ways with a willing partner. PM me if you want me to be more graphic.
Bottom line is that if it is a psychological problem then you must practice more. You are embarrassed, and of course that leads to more psychological problems, so only you can mind control your way out of this.
Good luck.
ahmed41562 ken619
Posted
Thanks ken !
I already PM'd you