Making things worse for myself but don't know how to stop
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I've been feeling so low for so long but, recently things have been an awful lot worse and I haven't been able to trust myself but, it feels as though everything I do either makes no difference or is making me worse!
I do occassionally go out with friends, I did in fact go out this weekend but got incredibly drunk leading to an incredibly dark mood. I've been feeling so low today but have done nothing, even though my friend invited me to go see her. I said no but, feel like maybe I should say yes more to distract myself (though usually it doesn't really help so I have kind of given up).
I don't have a job at the minute despite being a University graduate and applying for literally every job I see which, means my days are very empty anyway and the constant stream of rejection is getting me down. I know barely one person in the city I just moved to so it feels so lonely here and without a job I can't really meet anyone anyway.
I so do not help myself, even when I go to see my GP - though she knows a bit about what's going on I seem to drift out of my body and watch myself openly lie and say everything is ok - I do it to everyone, none of my friends or family know about the incident that set off my depression and nobody knows what's going on because I'm totally isolated.
I used to self harm every day but the scars became so prevalent and I was worried people would see them, instead of stopping I now make myself sick instead after meals. More harm which leads to more problems.
I think I really am self sabotaging and don't know how to stop - I did contact counsellors for help but I'm waiting to hear back and have been for the last month.
Does anybody else see themselves spiralling but feel more as though they're watching these things unfold rather than living it? I'm so detached from reality and I can feel my body slipping as well as my mind now.
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Crazycat fee25
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All I know is for me it was a case of riding it out and grabbing anything to hold on to !
I can guarentee that the " train " does stop and you can breathe again, in the mean time take and get all the help you can from anyone you can, give your GP all the info you can about your feelings and talk on here as much as you need :-)
Hugs xxxxx
fee25 Crazycat
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Of course I am not! :P
I will try and speak to my GP more openly when I see her next, hopefully I won't buckle it on the day.
xxxxx
johneurope fee25
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I'm in a similar situation regarding job and also in a diff country were I know nobody,I would suggest joining a gym as it gets you out of the house for 1 and the exercising can only be good for u.I would go of the rails without it and it will also give you a chance to meet some ppl.my problem is the language barrier,anyway just a suggestion.are you on any kind of medication,I started 4 week ago and I'm starting to feel better everyday,you need to stop making yourself sick,that's not going to help your situation.two week ago I was feeling low and ended up drinking and back on the fags for around 4 days,big mistake,got proper down but managed to pull myself out of it.I would stress to anybody reading this,if your feeling low the last thing to do is hit the bottle.Basically what I'm trying to say is stay strong an you will pull through.Take care
fee25 johneurope
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I'm glad your meds are helping you, I can't imagine how hard it would be to start over in a new country! Difficult but maybe refreshing at the same time which, is good.
That's the problem with drinking, it seems like a good idea at the time but makes you feel so, so much more low - and adding to that, makes me feel as though I have the strength to follow through on something more dangerous. Definitely would steer clear!
Thank you for your reply
johneurope fee25
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michelle87265 fee25
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nick21824 fee25
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fee25 nick21824
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I think the exercise is a good idea, getting out of the house in general would probably be a good idea.
susan45954 fee25
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