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Married to a functioning alcoholic.

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alice80348
alice80348

Please somebody help me. I have been married to my husband for 20 years. He has always enjoyed a drink, maybe 3/4 cans of lager after work, over the years it has increased to a bottle of wine and 4 cans every day. I worked out over a week he is having 100 units. His behaviour is disgusting, he's weed the bed, wet himself on the sofa, the list is endless. Myself and our boys have pleaded with him to stop, he won't admitt he has a problem. I've threatened to leave him and he'll go a couple of nights without drinking, but the excuses always creep back in. What do i do? I'm now on antidepressants and having councelling, I'm not sure i even love him anymore, please somebody help me.

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  • joel66
    joel66 alice80348

    Posted

    If you love him or care about him you will seek an Intervention, or he will die from it.
  • alice80348
    alice80348

    Posted

    Well hello again all you lovely, kind people. I felt obliged to keep you up dated. I thank you all so much for your comments. I have now moved out and got my own place, which was the hardest thing I've ever done, I don't regret a thing. I am as happy as I can be, guilt haunts me. We keep in regular contact, I still care deeply, is that normal? Who knows in the crazy world of being married to an alcoholic. Anyway, from the very bottom of my heart, thank you all so very much. Xxxxx

  • Robin2015
    Robin2015 alice80348

    Posted

    Thanks for a positive update. You are strong and living your own life. Not wrong to still love him. Your boys are with you and doing well I assume. Well done again! 😁

  • alice80348
    alice80348

    Posted

    Hello you lovely kind people, well, it's been 6 months now since I moved out. I'd like to give you some positive news. I can honestly say 100% I did the right thing. I am now at peace with myself and guilt free. I can look at the situation from afar and see it so clearly, the way it dragged me down for so long. My EX HUSBAND, yes, I'm divorcing him, is still drinking, I remain friends with him although my boys tell me nothing has changed. Anyway, I'm happy at last. This will probs be my last post, so once again, thank you all. I hope to be able to give guidance/help one day too like you all did for me when I was at the lowest time of my life. Lots of love to you all. Xx x

    • Robin2015
      Robin2015 alice80348

      Posted

      What a wonderful story! And a happy ending as well! You are a shining light of hope to us all. Live in peace and harmony with your boys. Robin😂

    • vickylou
      vickylou alice80348

      Posted

      Hi alice

      so good to get an update or finale. So many people post their life stories, get advice and support and disappear, end of.

      ?So glad to hear you’ve moved on and getting on with your life. Time for some ‘you’ time.

      You gave him every option and chance to get help, only so much you could do. Enjoy your new life with your boys.

    • RHGB
      RHGB alice80348

      Posted

      I would reiterate what Vicky has said, it is nice that someone has come back to tell us how it turned out. We give advice to so many, who never come back and you're left wondering whether they got help/moved on.

      I am glad that you have moved on and have found that things become better with time. I also hope you find someone else to share your life with.

  • alice80348
    alice80348

    Posted

    Hey you lovely people, just thought I'd post a little update. It's been such a long time since I've looked forward to a Christmas but this year I've enjoyed the festivities so much, I just had to share my happiness with you all. I'm so happy in my life now, single, but that's fine, enjoying me time. just wanted to give any a glimmer of hope to anyone that be feeling as desperate/ as low as I was some hope that things can get soooo much better. Thank you again to everyone on here that gave me that extra bit of help and support I badly needed, I'll never meet you, but please know I'm forever grateful, all my love. xxxc

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