me and him

Even if he has herpes 1 ?????? I taught that the virus is in him so he can't get it again ???

Numbers causes confusion and much more the real answer is if the her b.f don't mind contracting genital herpes then go ahead but if he doesn't want the genital herpes he should not have sex with an herpes2 affected person end of discussion, Dominique these doctors and professional will drive you crazy with these unsolid answers

The numbers aren't confusing and they're straight forward and people want to know their risks period. They want facts and to be educated about their risks associated w it. He will want to know that and this is a part of proper disclosure. Maybe you haven't been through disclosure, but people absolutely do want to lnow their facts.

Speak for yourself on what someone wants to know or not, that's your choice not yo use facts in your disclosure.

I think you need to go troll somewhere else w your negative attitude and your unsolicited advice I didn't ask for. Now, please go tey to ruin someone else's day w your negative post and not someone else seeking advice.

I didn't mean to ruin sombodys day but I believe I gave a solid answer then any doctor will give!

Well feel free to check out Westover heights clinic. He is one of the leading researchers in herpes and these numbers come from them.

Doctors that treat herpes are not counselors, they're not supposed to to give personal advice nor are they really educated in herpes, unless they are an infectious disease doctor.

I suggest you read your post and see how poorly it came off; came off very arrogant and you can't make the assumption of what a doctor would tell her. There's doctors still passing info to people, that you're only contagious during obs! So nobody can be their own best advocate for their health, but themselves. They don't have time to keep up w the latest and greatest and quite frankly, I am sorely disappointed in many doctors today and their ignorance. It is scary what they are telling patients and I am very educated in this subject.

That's great you gave an answer, but you didn't need to comment on my post, when it's clear I've got the knowledge behind it, while you're simply sharing your opinion. Coming off that way and freak people out, especially if they're new to the virus... So just please tone it down a bit in the future. :-)

You're right I'm sorry for the statement I provided I wish I can delete it but I don't know how too

I'm sorry I've been having the most stressful 3 months of my life because of herpes subject that I couldn't get an final answers and it really hurts

Nah... You're good.. I've come off as a j*rk plenty of tines, if I'm not feeling well and in a bad mood and someone keeps spazing on here... Don't worry about it. It says more about your character that you acknowledged it, other than reaching defiantly or not owning it and deleting it away . ;-)

I am quick to fire things off w out thinking a lot definitely a flaw of mine and one I tey to work on, but bad moods can sometimes get the best of me, like everyone else. Don't worry about it . ;-)

I figured as much.... I know, because when I've felt angry at times about this, especially in the first several months, I've taken it out on others here too.

What is it that you want answers on, maybe I can help. :-)

I honestly was tryna help but didn't know how I'm sorry dominique,, my story is that I have to deal with time and patients wich Is killing me by the day and I'm too confused with all the Internet blogs so here it goes I had protected sex feb22,15 with a herpes2 positive lady wich I didn't know until the next day when her friend told me she had herpes2 so I called the girl and she said yes but she gets no symptoms so I tested 3 times the last test was on June 27,15 and all was igg test and we're negative so I'm not sure if my test are conclusive or I have to wait 6 months wich is another 3 months I know alot of ppl say 3-4 months is conclusive but what irratates me is when I read online that it can take up to 6 months and thats driving me crazy!

I'm sorry last test was on may 27,15 not june

We haven't hit June 27th, yet hun.. You mean may?

Listen, I tested positive 3 months after infection, but I didn't the week after infection. But knew I had it cause of symptoms. A small percentage of people take 6 months to develop antibodies and that's pertaining mostly to HIV.

You had protected sex, she had no signs or symptoms, you didn't say IG she was on meds, you are way over thinking this. Your chance of getting this is almost none. How about you look at the numbers like you're 98-99% likely negative?

I think you're letting your anxiety take over and now I lnow why you feel angry, but give this girl credit, she is being upfront first. There's plenty on here who don't tell. For me, disclosure was never an option, it was something that had to be done.

My best friends ex had herpes and he was w her 7yrs and he never got it. So stop stressing.

Thanks for posting your experience, much appreciated... Just a heads up, hsv 2 rarely transfers to the mouth. Only 1% of oral herpes is from hsv 2 and that's in immune compromised patients like HIV patients.

Interesting. I did not know that.

Also, I never let my ex do oral on me because I was terrified my HSV1 would be transmitted to his mouth, he would get cold sores, and then when kissing I would get cold sores in my mouth. I just wouldn't be able to deal with both.

So you have genital hsv 1? That can happen, but genital hsv 1, sheds half the time than hsv 2 on the genitals and a lot harder to pass.

I'm referring to hsv 2 genital to oral though. Hsv 1 is different.

Why? I have oral hsv 1 from my ex husband and got hsv 2 a yr ago. Just about everyone is positive for oral herpes by the time they're adults. Just because either one of you don't have oral breakouts, doesn't mean you don't have it. I don't get breakouts on my mouth either, but I know I got it, because I had an outbreak inside my mouth really bad when I got it and ibwas very run down.

I probably do have it. I just have never had a cold sore on my lips.

I was told by my Dr that canker sores and herpes cold sores are two different things. I have also read that in some medical textbooks.

Anyways, I got HSV 1 on my genitals from a ex bf. I don't recall him having cold sores on his mouth. But once when I asked him if he had STDS or herpes he said no and that I shouldn't share chapsticks/drinks with people because that's how I could get it. Needless to say he was the only person I was with so I knew it had to have been him because I was neg before him. We broke up and I got my first outbreak a month or two later. I only had oral twice with him, never been with anyone else before him, needless to say it can happen to everyone.

Your post makes me feel better but I still feel crappy when I have an outbreak so I can't imagine passing it on or having outbreaks on my lips because I would be too hard on myself.

They are different, but my first oral herpes pb, was nothing but a ton of canker sores in my mouth all at once. So I don't get canker sores in my mouth, bit once in a blur moon I get a red dot in the corner of my mouth or bottom inside of lip and I know it's oral herpes. I have a friend who thought she never had oral herpes and was tested and she does. 80% of people have no symptoms of herpes.

Well you never said if you tested positive for hsv 1 or 2, by swab or blood.

Hun, we all feel that way. I've had this a yr next month and I had the worst reaction to it than anyone I've seen online. I won't even go I to his bad my primary was, w severe neuropathy, but I can barely go a day w out a symptom that reminds me I have herpes.

You're just as good as you were before herpes, if not better and I'll tell you why. You have been tauvht a leveek of compassion and empathy most don't know and those traits are priceless. It makes you note humble and a kinder being. So just remember that when you think you're less than. Sending bunches of hugs your way and every girl amf guy out there that has to deal w this. We will get through this. <3>

You are amazing ! Thanks girl! Sending hugs right back at you.

You are right. We will get through this. Everyone, as difficult as it may seem we will be okay....

I have tested positive for HSV1 by blood. the swab came back positive for HSV1. Negative for the swab and blood test for HSV 2.