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Hello. I have genital herpes 1 and my boyfriend has oral herpes simplex 1. Can we have on protected sex since we both have the same herpes 1 ?? If I don't have any sore blister can he get some on his penis ? Or on his mouth ? Thank you
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stressed dominique29434
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feelbroken dominique29434
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The following transmission rates are for genital hsv 2, female to male, sex 2-3xs a week for a year and abstaining from sex during symptoms.
- no condoms or meds: 4%
- condoms or meds: 2%
- both condoms and meds: 1%
Since genital hsv 1 sheds half of the time that hsv 2 does, you can cut those numbers in half.
stressed feelbroken
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Speak for yourself on what someone wants to know or not, that's your choice not yo use facts in your disclosure.
I think you need to go troll somewhere else w your negative attitude and your unsolicited advice I didn't ask for. Now, please go tey to ruin someone else's day w your negative post and not someone else seeking advice.
stressed feelbroken
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Doctors that treat herpes are not counselors, they're not supposed to to give personal advice nor are they really educated in herpes, unless they are an infectious disease doctor.
I suggest you read your post and see how poorly it came off; came off very arrogant and you can't make the assumption of what a doctor would tell her. There's doctors still passing info to people, that you're only contagious during obs! So nobody can be their own best advocate for their health, but themselves. They don't have time to keep up w the latest and greatest and quite frankly, I am sorely disappointed in many doctors today and their ignorance. It is scary what they are telling patients and I am very educated in this subject.
That's great you gave an answer, but you didn't need to comment on my post, when it's clear I've got the knowledge behind it, while you're simply sharing your opinion. Coming off that way and freak people out, especially if they're new to the virus... So just please tone it down a bit in the future. :-)
stressed feelbroken
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I am quick to fire things off w out thinking a lot definitely a flaw of mine and one I tey to work on, but bad moods can sometimes get the best of me, like everyone else. Don't worry about it . ;-)
feelbroken stressed
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What is it that you want answers on, maybe I can help. :-)
stressed feelbroken
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Listen, I tested positive 3 months after infection, but I didn't the week after infection. But knew I had it cause of symptoms. A small percentage of people take 6 months to develop antibodies and that's pertaining mostly to HIV.
You had protected sex, she had no signs or symptoms, you didn't say IG she was on meds, you are way over thinking this. Your chance of getting this is almost none. How about you look at the numbers like you're 98-99% likely negative?
I think you're letting your anxiety take over and now I lnow why you feel angry, but give this girl credit, she is being upfront first. There's plenty on here who don't tell. For me, disclosure was never an option, it was something that had to be done.
My best friends ex had herpes and he was w her 7yrs and he never got it. So stop stressing.
mary72052 dominique29434
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Basically, if you have no outbreak the chances of your bf getting herpes in his genitals are slim. Thus, he should do it at his own risk.
Having HSV1 is one thing. Where your blisters show up is another. It is possible to have sores in the mouth and genitals.
feelbroken mary72052
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Also, I never let my ex do oral on me because I was terrified my HSV1 would be transmitted to his mouth, he would get cold sores, and then when kissing I would get cold sores in my mouth. I just wouldn't be able to deal with both.
feelbroken mary72052
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I'm referring to hsv 2 genital to oral though. Hsv 1 is different.
feelbroken mary72052
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I was told by my Dr that canker sores and herpes cold sores are two different things. I have also read that in some medical textbooks.
Anyways, I got HSV 1 on my genitals from a ex bf. I don't recall him having cold sores on his mouth. But once when I asked him if he had STDS or herpes he said no and that I shouldn't share chapsticks/drinks with people because that's how I could get it. Needless to say he was the only person I was with so I knew it had to have been him because I was neg before him. We broke up and I got my first outbreak a month or two later. I only had oral twice with him, never been with anyone else before him, needless to say it can happen to everyone.
Your post makes me feel better but I still feel crappy when I have an outbreak so I can't imagine passing it on or having outbreaks on my lips because I would be too hard on myself.
feelbroken mary72052
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Well you never said if you tested positive for hsv 1 or 2, by swab or blood.
Hun, we all feel that way. I've had this a yr next month and I had the worst reaction to it than anyone I've seen online. I won't even go I to his bad my primary was, w severe neuropathy, but I can barely go a day w out a symptom that reminds me I have herpes.
You're just as good as you were before herpes, if not better and I'll tell you why. You have been tauvht a leveek of compassion and empathy most don't know and those traits are priceless. It makes you note humble and a kinder being. So just remember that when you think you're less than. Sending bunches of hugs your way and every girl amf guy out there that has to deal w this. We will get through this. <3>3>
mary72052 feelbroken
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You are right. We will get through this. Everyone, as difficult as it may seem we will be okay....
I have tested positive for HSV1 by blood. the swab came back positive for HSV1. Negative for the swab and blood test for HSV 2.