MENOPAUSAL RAGE: Does anyone have an extra SET of OLD DISHES, so I can break them?

I understand completely sister! When the rage takes hold of me, I feel like I am going to go completely beserk! If someone says the wrong thing to me, when I'm in this state, he better run for his life! The rage overtakes me without warning. I remember making dinner with my partner, and I could feel the rage just boiling inside, and I couldn't stop it from spewing forth. I was grating carrots, of all things, and I starting screaming. I walked over to the dining room table, and thrust the grater into the table, making a huge dent in it. Then, I threw it across the room. I promptly went to my bedroom and screamed and cried and moaned until I got it all out of me. My spouse, stayed in the kitchen (he's super smart), and I eventually calmed down and finished making my dinner. I recommend screaming, smashing stuff, kicking the crap out of a punching bag. I often went down to the beach late at night, and just let loose with my emotions.

This is a horrific part of menopause, and it should be talked about! Women should never be ashamed because it's not their fault, and it takes extreme will-power to stop the anger tsuanami; sometimes, it's impossible.

I wrote in an earlier post just a few minutes ago I am a trauma survivor. Rage was one of my first symptoms in peri. I didn't know that was a symptom. I thought it was because I had unresolved trauma issues. I was so confused, scared and of course ragey. Before peri I was this happy go lucky girl. I don't yell at people. People tell me I am super sweet. Where did this rage monster come from? What is happening to me? Of course it is scaring me, making me enraged and just a horrific Groundhog Day scenario. The rage thing took my self worth and put me in a terrible depression.

It has gotten a lot better after a couple of years. Even tonight my DH was getting on my nerves. I was getting really mad. I love my DH. He's been supportive. When I started peri he would say things like "This is your hormones!" I know girls he went there. The way my DH says it and like other guys say it means two different things. My DH is very scientific by nature. He was trying to help. I just yelled at him for being a horrific, cruel, sexist, mean jerk, lol.

I have learned how to use this rage as something positive. I have a really abusive Mom. I have this rage now I finally got the strength to tell her where to go! It was so freeing.

Toxic vampire friends I told them where to go and it's been so freeing.

When I see somebody being hateful I tell them off and protect who they are hurting, especially because I am a minority. This has been the perfect time to use my rage as power for a purpose.

I hate the rage thing. I hate it with a passion. I can't wait to be me again. I miss me. I am glad it did happen even though it took a few years for me to appreciate it.

i dont get the rage too often, but im used to it now as antidepressant withdrawal was almost a constant rage, i use cbt, say to my partner im feeling angry and he stays out of my way or i just leave the room until it passes xx