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MENOPAUSAL SECRETS: Do any of your family members know you are DEEP in the throes of this TSUNAMI?

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vivian72668
vivian72668

Hey Ladies..

After reading a post on this thread, I was a bit taken aback. The poster stated she wears a mask around her husband and children. They have NO IDEA, what she is going through.. That being said, are you wearing a MENOPAUSAL mask in the presence of your friends and family members? Do you put on a happy face around your loved ones, and act as if everything is great, yet you're about to crack at any minute? Does your family know what you're going through? If not, now's the time to tell them. Don't keep them in the dark; they need to know, this is a NATURAL part of your life! Post your thoughts, thanks in advance.

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  • bev27429
    bev27429 vivian72668

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    I have confided in and been completely candid with all those closest to me: my spouse, my mother, my closest friends (four of them). All of them have seen me in the most horrific states imaginable: crying, screaming, throwing things, being catatonic, as well as hearing me tell them that I didn't want to go on living; that's how bad things have been for me. Everyone rallied around me, supported me, comforted me, and reminded me, that no matter how soul-destroying, I would get through this. My spouse thinks that I'm a warrior, and he frequently tells me that no one could handle this thing better than me. If anything, this experience has brought me even closer to my loved ones because I have 100% shared my vulnerability with them. I have NEVER felt shame for this because this is not my fault; I didn't ask for this. All I have ever done is tried to survive this thing. After almost five terrifying years, I think that it is almost over. Now I am beginning to emerge stronger than ever, with boundless energy. NOTHING can stop me now. I'm invincible!! Anyone who reads this and thinks that I'm exaggerating, didn't go through the menopause that I did!

    • sandeep08592
      sandeep08592 bev27429

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      I hear you and feel and done exactly as you've described. I've been very vocal about perimenopause and I wear a mask when I'm out and in people's company. Inside I'm a broken and very vulnerable women. I won't let perimenopause control me

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