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Menopause 101: This Sugar Honey Ice Tea Is TOO MUCH!

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vivian72668
vivian72668

Hey Ladies...

Many days, I often wonder, when is this tsunami going to end? Why was my SANE life stolen from me, and why was the rug pulled out from under me, while I was coherent? Having said that, do ANY of you EVAA feel as if you can't take menopause another day, and are ready to check your DAMN SELF into an asylum, like the nearest one, like a year or two ago? Tell me your thoughts.

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  • bev27429
    bev27429 vivian72668

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    I used to tell my partner that I needed to go to a psych hospital, when it got that BAD, and I got that DESPERATE! His response..."But, honey, then you'd start to feel better, and I'd have to come and rescue you and break you out of that place". He always manages to find humor, even in the darkest of places 😃

    The shifting moods from anger to numbness to hopelessness to euphoria to peace (in no particular order) have been painful beyond words. I often feel as though I'm being punished for a crime that I never committed.

    I'm so thankful, though, to have had my life partner by my side every step of the way; I don't know how I would have survived this without his loving support for the past five years!

    • beth58277
      beth58277 bev27429

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      I'm in the numbness phase right now and it's very scary. I've always been a caring person and felt empathy for others, now I don't feel alot about anything. Everybody coming to me with their problems is annoying me. Now I wonder if this has been the real me all along and perimenopause has brought it out. The past few days I've had so much anxiety, I feel like I'm going to explode.Nothing seems to help.

    • bev27429
      bev27429 beth58277

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      It's definitely NOT the real you! Everything gets heightened in perimenopause, so that what would normally be a minor annoyance can throw you into a fit of rage. It does feel scary; I understand. There were times when I thought that if I never saw my partner again, I wouldn't care in the slightest; it was horrible, but I also recognized that it wasn't me. Those feelings shifted, and then I was back to loving him again. I, too, have had anxiety that's been off the charts. I try to do calming activities to help myself: gardening and being in nature helps, somewhat, to take the edge off.

      Feel free to private message me, if you need support.

      Big hugs,

      B xo

    • beth58277
      beth58277 bev27429

      Posted

      Thanks so much. What you said about your partner is exactly how I feel. It's so weird.Its nice to know I'm not alone . Big hugs to you too.😊

    • vivian72668
      vivian72668 bev27429

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      Hey Bev..

      I enjoyed reading your post, immensely! Women need to know, see, and hear that MENOPAUSE is relentless, yet when ANY of has a support system , that alone, takes the edge off of it!

    • vivian72668
      vivian72668 beth58277

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      Hey Beth...

      Please find out what works (hence: vitamins, talk therapy, walking, having fun, exercising, etc.) for you to COMBAT some of the horrific symptoms, during this tsunami! I have several coping mechanisms that get me through to the next hour and ultimately, throughout each day.. Be well, my menopausal sister!

  • sara97862
    sara97862 vivian72668

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    Hi Viv,

    I have wished SO MANY TIMES for some place to go, for a week, a month, whatever it takes, where I can focus on seeking help on for this Sugar Honey Ice Tea.

    Totally not fair, trying to figure out how to rally your support system (if you even have one), while trying to listen to your body, change your habits if needed, get adequate rest, nutrients and water in a place or time that doesn't pile on the stress.

    I really just wanna crawl in a cocoon, figure out my s***, then come back out when I'm ready.

    So over this~

    Solidarity, Sis!

    Sara

    • sara97862
      sara97862

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      Forgot to mention ...!

      There is a family story about one of my grandmothers who took off to a different state unexpectedly for a few months in her 40s.

      Didn't say much about it when she got back.

      Always a mystery.

      I think I know the "why" now, and I completely understand.

    • beth58277
      beth58277 sara97862

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      I think about escaping all the time. Maybe we should all go on a big girls trip. lol A week on a beautiful beach.

    • vivian72668
      vivian72668 beth58277

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      Hey Beth...

      That's it, think outside the box! When any woman goes through menopause, she has to be creative, witty, and willing to do things that will make her happy and MAINTAIN some sense of normalcy, during this tsunami!

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