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menopause at 31 or something else?high fsh and normal estradiol

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carrotcake
carrotcake

hi ladies,

im 31. no health issue or meds. i had an irragular cycle and i decided to have it checked. i did a smear test and the doc decided to check some hormones as well. to our surprise my fsh during my cycle was 16 and one week later during no cycle, it was 45. he checked thyroid, lh, estradiol, gonadropin(cant spell it)..some other female hormones...all normal. except my fsh and my cortisol which was also high.  i dont have any other symptom. and none in my family had premature menopause. he asked me to freeze eggs...but im terrified. im only 31..and im not handling these news well. i feel so bad that im going to quit my job and move back with my family. the doc also mentioned pituitary tumor..but i think its very unlikely.

does anyone have any similar experience and if my fsh is high...wouldnt my estradiol be low?  

in case i have premature menopause he said he will give me meds to slow it down.

i mean...does this mean my love life is over? should i just get 10 cats and move in with them?

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  • tina00239
    tina00239 carrotcake

    Posted

    No no no, listen to the dr. They have clearly recognised markers for early menopause in you but as they said it can be arrested with medication so if you havent yet had or completed the family you want, grab this opportunity with both hands. The dr you see clearly knows their stuff and is interested enough in you to help. Lots of ladies on here have drs who are totally indifferent and who dont care. Be reassured, this dr will look after you and those are like gold dust! Everything will be ok just trust and put yourself in the hands of your dr and dont be afraid to report any unusual symtoms for you, my gut tells me youve got a good dr here, let them help you you may be very sorry later on if you dont. XXX
    • carrotcake
      carrotcake tina00239

      Posted

      i havent had family yet and i dont even have a bf. i thought i had time..so i focused solely on my career,moved abroad for a better future...but...i dont see any future at the moment. im scared that my life is over as i know it.

      no kids, no family, no man would want someone with no sex drive and no functional vagina...sad

      im just too young for menopause sad 

      now i will need to quit my job abroad, move back home where i will be unemployed for perhaps years...(country in crisis)...and ill need to find a bf asap lol. in my home country, all the meds and freezing the eggs are soooo much cheaper than where im currently living. 

      i feel this is shuttering all my dreams.

    • carrotcake
      carrotcake

      Posted

      also, since i still have normal estradiol...i still have some time left..right?

       

    • tina00239
      tina00239 carrotcake

      Posted

      I really believe that your life is not over yet. Where do you live now and where is your home country? I'm sure any treatment you were put on where you are currently living, could be transfered to your home country if you decided that you really needed to move back home. I believe that stress, depression and anxiety are what is ruling your life at the moment all the more reason to get some treatment so you dont end up making a wrong decision that could effect the rest of your life. You havent got close family round you, so do you have a close friend who can support you? If not, we are all here to help you if we can but ultimately you need to make a big positive decision, to improve your quality of life. You really need professional help so you can cope, and hopefully make the right decision for you. XXX

    • carrotcake
      carrotcake tina00239

      Posted

      well i made the mistake to google it and it showed all sorts of stories of young women saying they cant be intimate any more. 

      im in uk. i dont have access to private healthcare. im not insured by my work, they only insure managers lol. 

      i dont really have anyone close to me here...but even if i did...i couldnt disclose this to them. i come from a culture when you actually need to have your 'own genetically related' kids and adoption is still seen as something not very usual. im adopted btw. so if i tell people...they might tell people...and this might have an effect on how men around me view me. infertile. lol.

      im from a country on the south, freezing eggs is less than 1000usd and you can call the doctor whenever you want, have all tests free etc. i dont believe i would get the best treatment here in uk. i would if i was rich and could afford private docs. and had the time......im not on any treatment yet. my docs want to do further tests...but i cant fly back home before july because managers wont give me any time off. im concerned that by july it will be too late.

    • tina00239
      tina00239 carrotcake

      Posted

      My dear girl, the UK has one of the best free healthcare systems in the world. People from all over the world come here for specialist care. Some of the best endocrine (hormone) drs are situated in London hospitals and you can be sent there by any dr, anywhere in the country. How do I know this? Because I have been sent to whatever specialists there are available in London for numerous health issues and have always received the best care available at no cost. You dont need to pay to get good medical care in this country. I've lived my whole life here. I'm adopted too. My dr is fantastic and sends me to the best specialists there are. You are in a very good country for expert and high quality and free healthcare. As you have worked here you will be entitled to access it. Dont be afraid. I am only still alive due to the constant and continuous healthcare I have had. I also think you are jumping the gun. If you get and have treatment really soon, the drs should be able to prevent you from menopausing early. I used to attend one of the best endocrine clinics in the country at St. Bartholomews Hospital in London, and I live right on the south coast of UK. Do you really want to give up your job and go home? Why not try things out here first and see how it goes before you up sticks and move back home. You say apart from family there isnt much there for you, so trust the drs here and see if they can sort things for you so you can keep your job as it obviously means alot to you. XXX

    • carrotcake
      carrotcake tina00239

      Posted

      because my current job wont give me  time off. to go to nhs i need to get a day off and my manager wont give it to me because everyone in the department is out until june(very good holiday skills from my manager). and the docs back home told me i might not have viable eggs by then.

      you are right, nhs can be amazing. compared to US especially. but on this occassion i dont have the time i think...cos ill need a referral letter from my gp, and then the appointment will be in a couple of weeks or months. if it there was no urgency then sure.

      i remember they were investigating my bruises and i was sent to ..umm...i dont remember...the best one in london for hematological disorders...and the appointment was 11 months after i saw the gp. at that time i didnt mind. but now i dont have time sad

    • tina00239
      tina00239 carrotcake

      Posted

      Your boss cannot under employment laws in this country stop you from attending necessary medical appointments. Alot of surguries now open longer hours too. Also I'm sure that whatever dr sees you will know how urgent the situation is and get you an urgent appointment to see someone. Dont be put off! XXX

  • marcia_27799
    marcia_27799 carrotcake

    Posted

    Don't panic, be positive and definitely look for 2nd, and 3rd opinions 

    • carrotcake
      carrotcake marcia_27799

      Posted

      i saw 3 docs who are now working together to solve this and put me on the right meds. they have mentioned the possibility of it being a pituitary issue but who knows. they tend to think its POF. its a very unknown territory for me, and i find it difficult to cope with. even though i understand it can be controlled with meds and its not life threatening. but im still in a shock.

      i live abroad, and called my mum all panicked, and cried like crazy...and to my surprise she said 'i had POF at 37 too. thats how you came into our lives', i was adopted. so its really rare that she had it too! 

      my birth family all had menopause at 55.

       

  • vicky77852
    vicky77852 carrotcake

    Posted

    Hi! Don’t panic and trust your doc. I’m in the same boat, a bit older than you and in early meno. I’m childless too and on hrt. It’s a hard time but it will pass. Hrt will help you and you ll feel normal again. 
    • carrotcake
      carrotcake vicky77852

      Posted

      my mum revealed to me she went through POF too at 37. she managed to have periods on and off until she was 49. and she did get pregnant during those years too. that happened in the 70s...so i guess there is some hope for us right?

      (im adopted so i didnt inherit it as my birth family had menopause at 55). 

      what makes me sad is that i feel my youth is now taken from me? i suddenly feel 60 years old and scared

    • vicky77852
      vicky77852 carrotcake

      Posted

      I feel the same exactly, I feel old before my time! My mum had her meno at 47 and she was on Tibolone for many years afterward. I’m so afraid of premature aging and I find it so unfair! Hrt helps with bones, brain and skin. My FSH was 35 when I have been diagnosed 8 months ago. I had too severe symptoms and I feel fine now.
    • carrotcake
      carrotcake vicky77852

      Posted

      but i dont understand how my fsh is so high and i have no symptoms? 

      the doc reassured me theres nothing to be afraid, cos i told him i dont want to get old or to have wrinkled skin or any new disorder which comes with menopause and he said thats all bs. so..i hope he is right.. my mum who had meno at 37 and is now 78 looks like shes 50.

    • vicky77852
      vicky77852 carrotcake

      Posted

      I have exactly the same fears, I’m from Greece and hrt considered dangerous here and is not prescribed easily. I tried a lot to find a good treatment. I’m grateful for hrt and hope that my gyn is right. He said that age ages us and not to afraid of premature aging. Hrt will protect us from future health problems. You have not symptoms yet because your estradiol is still normal. When your estrogen start to decline, the symptoms will start. My first gyn was so negligible! He did offer any help to me! My last gyn said that it was dangerous to stay without estrogen due to my young age.
    • carrotcake
      carrotcake vicky77852

      Posted

      i hope its gonna take years before my estrogen falls...how fast did yours fall?  or how fast does it usually drop? the doc said he doesnt know but its probably gonna take 2-6 years. 

      last year i had a ct scan which showed normal active follicle. how can my stupid ovaries declined so fast

      have you freezed eggs? did they say you should? mine did, but its super expensive here.

       

    • vicky77852
      vicky77852 carrotcake

      Posted

      My estrogen declined very fast, in 2 years I was in perimenopause. I had an estrogen crush, it means a fast decline in estrogen that caused me a lot of severe symptoms. My FSH was 12 and after a year it was 28! I did not freeze any eggs cause I don’t like the idea and the whole prosecure. Everyone is different and maybe things will be better from you. Take care!
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