Menopause! Fatigue, crying, aching, nauseous, headaches
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Sitting here crying...... again! Feeling awful. Woke up this morning feeling nauseous and aching legs. Went for a run on Monday. Still recovering. Had hoped to go again yesterday but felt awful. Tired all the time. Anxious about everything. Putting on weight but can't stop eating. Had various tests - all ok, including colonoscopy and mammogram. Worried myself silly in the run up to Christmas ..... Virtually read myself the last rights. Have no confidence. Awful temper. Nagging....... Sick of hearing myself rant on to my 12 year old son. What will help. I've read about B6, is B-50 worth a try (Holland and Barrett)?
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julievonb lesley26791
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I too feel just terrible. I'm 52 and have health anxiety. If it is not one symptom it's another. Today it's nausea. Yesterday it was racing heart. Hot flashes were last week. I just want to feel normal again. I have tried everything to feel better. Some days I just want to sit down and cry. I was on natural progesterone compounded by a pharmacy. After 7 years it quit working. So now I'm lost and miserable.
I hope we all find something that makes us feel better.
lisa36149 lesley26791
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Well I'm glad I've been reading all this . I'm a very young 49 ( 50 this year unfortunately) seem to be having horrid things like I've read in here. I've got terrible fatigue and nausea. I eat a very healthy vegetarian diet and swim 4x a week and gym. This year it doesn't matter what I do I can't lose the 1.5 stones that have crept on . My bladder control has disappeared. I'm bloated all the time. Tried everything. Can't take hrt as breast cancer high on my mums side, I wouldn't anyway as I'm not a believer in taking pills but gosh I really need a miracle!
maria_03422 lisa36149
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Welcome to our club Lisa! I know what you mean... I'm going to be 52 in December and I've been through all of the symptoms on the list and some more! 48 and 49 were the worst years for me it got easier as I turned 50! Not that they stopped just not as severe as before! Doesn't matter what I do I can't loose the a few pounds I gained since all this started
lesley00111 lisa36149
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Hi Lisa,
It's so strange how many people are suffering with this. The doctors call it fibromyalgia but personally I think it's a made up word for "we haven't got a clue". We are all too young to be feeling this way, it's sad!! Well I hope everyone gets cured at some point. We will have to share if anyone gets a cure!! Good luck!
Crazynoon lesley00111
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OMG! My name is Sue I stumbled across this forum by yet again searching for answers. I am 52 and been in peri for 7 years seems like a bloody lifetime, I still have regular periods that last about 3 weeks and they are horrendous I have to wear great big incontinence pads it goes through everything I've lost count the times I've had to go and change my clothes it's been on the car seat the clots are the size of plums it's like giving birth again.. the flushes my ears eyes everything is on fire, the headaches I make arrangements to do things on a Saturday and spend the day in bed nursing a migraine I get up of the chair or bed like a 90 year old in fact some of them are fitter than me I yo yo diet I binge I'm bloated I don't go out my husband dare not come home as I'm straight at him, my memory is terrible, I can't wee properly...I saw the gynaecologist had scans he just said well you have 28mm fibroids they are pressing on your urethra but they will shrivel when your in menopause and when will that be? Never! It feels like God give me strength...
chris03884 lesley26791
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In addition to the nausea, I get weird joint stiffness in my hands, feet and hips mid cycle. I am beginning to have my cycles future apart. Had a 40 day cycle. I had a complete Endo panel and Rheumatiod panel done. Everything was normal, except for an elevated ANA screening test. Had a C-reactive protien done and a Sed rate. Both normal.
Went to a rheumatiod Dr today to rule out Lupus and or RA. He basically said I probably don't have either. A certain percent of the population has a high positve ANA, including the Dr. He did give me a order for a couple more autoimmune panels, just to make sure.
?The joint stiffness starts about the 5th day of my cycle and lasts until about day 18th. Gets better, period starts, feel great for the first couple days. Those stiff days cause me anxiety, because I feel so uncomfortable. The more I use the joints, the worse it gets.
?I am convinced that this is an excess estrogen problem. I took progesterone for several years and it stopped working. My Gyno says this will stop one day. I keep a couple low dose Xanax around for those anxious days.
deirdre01438 lesley26791
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Lesley, what has helped you? I see your last post is from 2 years ago. Has anything helped? I'm going through the same.
lesley00111 deirdre01438
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Hi Deirdre,
My doc told me to take magnesium but I don't think it's working. I walk everyday and swim when I can. Sometimes I can barely walk after I've sat down, takes ages for the stiffness to ease up. So unfortunately nothing has worked so far. Now it's warmer I get more stabbing pains.
lesley26791 deirdre01438
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Hi Deirdre, I can't put my finger on one thing, though I started spinning classes which I do twice a week and also run twice a week. I mainly eat freshly prepared food and cut down on bread which I think helped with my waistline- I didn't eat loads beforehand but tried not to have it every day. I still eat chocolate but again try to cut it out some days. I try to be positive, though it is difficult sometimes. Mostly, I am in a better place, though I still get waves of anxiety which I'm having at the minute. Still can be sharp with people, son(!), husband but thankfully they understand! I really am against taking medication as past experiences with any-depression medication for migraines made me worse. My hair is thinning a little around the forehead so am taking brewers yeast which has helped a little. Still get aches and pains, but just try to ride through it. Still get emotional at the drop of a hat. My sister in law has been diagnosed with breast cancer, so I try to keep grounded thinking about that and others less fortunate. Hope this helps.
deirdre01438 lesley26791
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THank you for your response-I as hoping things had improved more for you.
I guess we all need to figure out what works. I totally agree regarding looking at what others go through I.e cancer etc. know only too well that things could be worse. Thanks for your ideas. I too tried magnesium and anti depressants which totally made me much worse than I was. I'm trying to just keep going. I keep telling myself it's just hormones but they do pack a punch. It's awful. I hope things improve for you and thank you sir replying.
lesley00111 deirdre01438
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Hi Dierdre,
I forgot to mention the doctor told me to keep well hydrated with water, tea and coffee don't count, in fact they make you more dehydrated because of the caffeine. I don't like water but I do try to force it down and when I do my muscle aches are much much less.
maria_03422 lesley00111
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Hi Lesley
I suffer with joint and muscle pain my dr just inform me that my vitamin D levels are only 20 which is very low, I think normal is 50...I've been taking vitamin D but he wants me to take this high dosage of 50000 iu!!! After reading about it, I'm terrified because some of the side effects are horrible ...so I'm mot sure what to do!
It doesn't end!!! Everyday something!!!
Hope you feel better..
natalie86711 lesley26791
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Grufflojan lesley26791
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I feel awlful...im snappy grumpy .and just getting through the day is hard work
I feel ill .i hurt and have problems walking at times i ache so much.
I thought it was all me and that i was so very very unfit and fat and a blubber..
But reading all your comments has made me feel that prehaps i am normal
melanie60516 Grufflojan
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Hey. Grufflojan. I feel like crying about 2/3 times a day. Sometimes I don't know why. I push myself to do things that I use to do. Try to exercise more, even if it hurts, because it will make you feel better. It's our hormones making us feel terrible.
teresa65253 Grufflojan
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Earlier i followed man who had given me the bird.He looked very surprised to then have me use every swear words that i know which is a lot at him. Then i cried all the way home . I have not had a period in 6yrs im 51. I have so much pain all overand the flushes are all day and night. Im also parnoid about everthing.I only see the worst and danger everywhere.
I used to be the fun girl people invited to parties. Men liked me because i was fun.
I have been with my amazing partner for 5yrs and he has watched me turn into a wreck of emotion insanity and blubber.
How can you feel sexy and want sex when for one its so dry your also in pain and emotional .I think ive become good at acting or hes just glad to get anything without me moaning.O yes ive cried through sex as well what a turn on for anyone.
Its the anger thats is scarying me and my victims.
Im not allowed HRT as ive got very high BP.
I have never done this before but it does feel good . Its helped today .
maria_03422 teresa65253
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so much to handle at times, and it helps to either scream or cry..
i walk and walk it helps me and i read constanly!
xoxoxox
mags74824 Grufflojan
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I feel your pain, you are not alone.
This has got to be the most horrendous thing I've ever experienced! The way I feel at the moment I would gladly have everything removed if I thought that would end this nightmare.
For the 2 plus weeks a month where my symptoms are worse I just exist, go to work come home go to bed repeat! This is not the life I want to be living at 45!