Mental maddness

So sorry you are going through this. I was having massive mood swings, so my doctor put me on Venlafaxine; for the hot flashes as well. Has worked like a charm.

Yes... I have. I had a tough time over the summer with kids being home (teens coming and going) and hubby's attitude. Went to marriage counseling twice and then he refused to go anymore. This was so hard for me -- I was extremely hurt.. I also had to deal with these heavy periods among other things. I had a couple 'meltdowns'-- talked with a therapist, friends even told my sister. I have 'mellowed' out some TRYING to focus on me and the kids. There are times that I can't stand him really but I have to take a deep breath and take one day at a time. Today, he was home and I just felt 'empty' inside-- I have no idea if this is anxiety or what. PM me anytime, I know it can be tough. Sometimes I feel it's me (hormones) BUT then other times I feel we are disconnected and that's why I feel crazy..

hate to be the bearrer of bad news but menopaise is worse . i am telling you this cause n ody else told me .... if u can grt on hormones like bioidentical or something . i wish somronr told me to donit and now its too late for me. all the terrible symptoms more an more it just eont stop for 5 years til its over and tou havent even started yet

you can control it. i whisper to myself all the time 'BE NICE'

i have to remember that perimenopause is like constant PMS. come here to vent. but men and kids dont understand.

on the rare good days I shop, clean, go for a run, cook a nice meal, laundry, etc.....

on my bad days which is about 18 days out of the month, i take my herbs and vitamins, go walking, do easy meals(trader joes) watch funny shows (MOM), read this forum 😃

i hope this helps. ❤❤❤

HI GIRL,, Just want to say I know how you feel,, I loose my s--- sometimes and I am not proud of it,, people around me don't understand or really care unfortunatly maybe because they are sick of it and I don't blame them,,so am I,, I think I will try to use some of Christine advice,, but I cant do bio identicals...I still trying to figure out how to cope right now like you, going to try a depression medication I think... I FEEL YOUR PAIN...HUGSxxx

The mental stuff is super tough to cope with. I am in late-stage perimenopause, age 51, and my anger bursts, irritation, and the intense desire to scream have all been escalating in the past several months. My mood can shift radically, in exactly the direction that I don't want it to go, and it can do so without warning. I feel like I am possessed by some demon sometimes! No joke.

No matter how much anger I have inside me, I force myself not to take it out on my loved ones, and I have been successful with this so far. I know when my emotions are starting to get out of control, that I need to release them somehow, and so I will scream and yell in my car, or when I am out on my bike or on a run, and it does help to take things down a notch or two.

I have also been very candid with my boyfriend, my mother, and my close friends. I am lucky to have a great support system, and when I get highly agitated in front of those I love, they understand, and they do everything that they can to help me, and they reassure me that it will get better.

It comes and goes, and I weather it in any way that I can.

My best advice would be to share your feelings with those closest to you to help them understand and to allow you to get the best support that you can.

Just know that many women are living through these challenges right along with you. It is a phase, a horrible one, but things will settle one day, and then it will all be in the rear view mirror:)

ohhh, I well remember that stage of this game! I had a serious hate on for my husband. Everything I had swept under the carpet for all those years before had to be brought out and talked about. It was HARD, but in the end it changed us for the better.

we were both committed to our marriage thankfully, and these days it is better than ever between us.

During that time I had to take frequent trips (visiting family, getting away from him) so I didnt just kill him, lol.

Peri is a time for setting many things right in your life. I totally ditched the inlaws. they were a major cause of friction in our marriage. I was no longer willing to put up with playing second fiddle to his mother. And his sister is just a nasty person.

Best thing I ever did was simply walk away from them, no explanations, just never went back.