Mistreatment of parents and idealizations of suicide

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I have a buddy, that has true concerns with his parents, he's an involuntary celibate and very lonely. So, basically most of his only social interactions are with his parents, and with me occasionally. He barely never go out of home.

He's in his 20's, and most of the family life is peaceful. He told me he loves them a lot, but at the same time, he have outbursts of rage and, that he could literally kill his parents, because he lose control of himself. When he's out of home, he can't stop calling his parents. He's very anxious in general. He already hit and sent to the hospital his mother many times, threatened with a weapon his father. He's under psychiatric treatment, and take psychotropics. He's not a drug addict, but sometimes drink too much or abuse psychotropics. Police had to intervene many times, arresting him once eventually.

Last time, he told me that he could take his weapons and use it against his parents, and then wish for a suicide by cop. He talk normally with me, he's very confident to me, and a nice intelligent person, overall.

It's a totally crazy situation for me, taking into fact, that 95% of the time, he and his parents they all love each others, as he told me.

His rage outbursts come mostly from frustrations and defeating, he in these dramatic situation accuse his parents that he was born and for being friendless and involuntarily celibate all his life. He mistreat his parents with occasionally, verbal violence. But truly dramatic situation happens very rarely, once or less per year. They love each other overall, but he could hate them so much when certain conditions are reunited and harming them. I want to help this friend, I don't want to see him suicide, or even worse killing his parents, to be behind bars for decades or to be killed by cops.

Please, can someone or a professional mental care specialist help me and advise me what to do?

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    This is hard to read.. Encourage your friend to seek help/ or continue getting help. Yes family loves each other but the parents need to question why they are getting hurt by son. Enough is enough and it will only get worse NOT better. Is there another sibling or is he the only child? I know he is your friend but there has to be something that you can do.... Like maybe anonymous tip on parents condition to his therapist.. The police must have many reports about this family. Yes parents love their son so much that they would take the abuse over son in metal hospital or jail.. That's so sad.

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      Thank you for your reply.

      He's the only child. Parents are not willing to report him to the authorities, nor to place him in a psychiatric institution.

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    Hi I am very sorry about your friend but apart from getting your friend to seek more help I don't know what else you can do. Also if he can be violent then you need to make sure you are safe as it is possible you could be caught up in this and be harmed too.

    There are no mental health professionals on this site, only fellow sufferers I'm afraid so the only way to get professional advice is from a professional. Aren't his parents concerned? I would be if he was my son. I don't know if I actually would if it came to it but I would like to think I would realise how dangerous he could potentially be and move a long way away without leaving an address. x

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    Just a suggestion... But why not seek out a therapist for YOU to talk with in the same building or network as your friend.. You can unload all these things to your therapist? I would be curious as to what they would say. And you can go from there. You wouldn't be ratting out your friend because your therapist wouldn't know who your talking about--unless of course you feel obligated to share later on. And being in the same network/building would be good as if it's a life threatening situation the therapists can talk with one another and do what is needed or what they can due to procedures.

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