More advice needed on overactive thyroid....is doc right??

Sorry to hear about your problems.  Men are not good at being ill.  Is there anyway you can go to the doctors with him so you can explain how his mood is affected.  That's providing he lets you of course.  I think he needs treatment sooner rathger than later but men are such difficult patients.  You could contact the doctors yourself I suppose but that doesn't help with treatment if he's not to get checked again for 6 months.   You are trying to help but if all this fails I don't see what you can do as you can't live someone's life for them.  Perhaps someone else has an idea. 

It is difficult to say what happened to him when he was seen by doc as you weren't there. Also, his health is his problem, not yours and he needs to take responsibility for it, not you. Many hyperthyroid patients have multiple physical and emotional problems because of the hyperthyroidism and when it is addressed, those problems do disappear. However, even patients who are put on antithyroid medications have correction of some physical problems such as fast heartbeat and sweating but still do not feel well emotionally until they add some supplements found in health food stores. He needs to be the one that is posting to this Board, not you. What I am seeing in you is what I see in spouses of alcoholics which is Co-dependency. You need to get support to put the focus on yourself and learn how to set boundaries and take care of yourself emotionally, not how to fix him. When you change, things will change between you and him. You can find this support by looking in the phone book or online for an Al-Anon group meeting or a CODA group meeting. You might mention to him, he can find support on this Board for his hyperthyroidism problem and then let it go and focus on yourself and your needs. I know this wasn't the advice you were searching for when you posted to this Board but it is absolutely essential that he take responsiiblity for himself and his illness.

Hi Kirsty

I don't think waiting for 6 months for meds for Hyperthyroidism will help with the bi Polar. I'm hyperthyroid and have been on carbimazole and that causes depression, so I can't see that it would be a good idea to wait for the medication. My husband is bi-polar and it took about 20 years before anyone took him seriously, so if I were you I would find a doctor in your surgery that has experience with depression, make an appointment for your baby's daddy, even if you have to drag him there (as I did my husband) and get that treated asap; before he goes on the carbimazole.

I hope that doesn't sound too negative, but once sorted you will find that the "nice person underneath" re-appears.

Kirsty, I am sorry you are in your current situation. I will say that have ing been diagnosed with a hyperthyroid 1.5 years ago, it completely changed how I handled situations.  I was always a happy go lucky girl and this caused me to lash out at my husband for no real reason.  Little things would set me off.  I researched what was going on with me only to realize that this can be a by product of a hyper thyroid.  Some people actually feel rage, which I did not.  In some ways, he can't help it.  I did see this happening to me and made a concerted effert to stop it in it's tracks when I found myself wanting to bite his head off.  It did take self control.  I do think that he needs to see another Dr ASAP.  Waiting 6 months is waaaaay too long.  Why 6 months?  He could actually be getting his blood drawn every 4-6 weeks right now to see if the medication is helping.  I eventually had to have my thyroid totally removed, surgically, this past April.  It has been 3 months since and I feel great.  I don't have the mood swings anymore and have tons of energy and the surgery was a snap to recover from.  It was definitely the way to go.  I just take synthroid every day now since my thyroid is out it is like a hypo(underactive) thyroid now.  I hope your baby's daddy gets another opinion soon.  He doesn't have to live like this.  Hopefully he can get back to a normal quality of life.