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I have written about this topic previously, but I am struggling again.

I am 56. I haven't had a period in over a year , (but unfortunately a small spotting a few months back). I have had EVERY symptom of perimenopause possible. I have also had many checkups, from having a colonoscopy, seeing a cardiologist, all blood work done (except for running my hormone levels).

I cannot take any longer the morning anxiety and feeling like crying and feelings of dread for the day.

My children are older and one is moved out and working the other away at college.

So one thing I do have is empty nest syndrome. But, I absolutely dread the mornings.

Does anyone else share this and can anyone HELP with suggestions?


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    I SO relate to this. I am 57 and I, too, have experienced every peri-menopause and post-menopause known to man (except hot flashes, oddly enough. I get cold-flashes!). I have had every test run, blood work (except hormone levels for some reason, and I am really curious about them. I may ask about that next time), echo, cardiology visits, MRI, CATscans, you name it. The only thing that every comes back abnormal are the doctors attending to me. They all look at me like I'm insane. Been complaining for at least the last 7 years, but nothing "concerning" is every found.

    So, I guess I said all that to say that I have no answers for you, but I can offer the solidarity in the fact that you are not alone. So many of us are or have experienced the same thing. The whole "getting past menopause" thing seems to be myth as far as I'm concerned. Anxiety certainly has increased despite cessation of my menstrual cycle, and migraines that started 5 years ago have morphed into vestibular migraines, adding dizziness to an already full line up.

    Hang in there. It's tough. My daughter just had her first child, my first grand-daughter, and being able help her live through these first few torturous weeks has helped me to focus on something other than how poorly I feel. I have faith that it will get better. I read encouraging articles, and listen to uplifting music, trying very heard to remove anxiety-producing things from my orbit. I think it helps a little -- certainly shouldn't hurt.

    Feel better. Take courage! It will get better. I am convinced of it. So looking forward to a world where sickness and suffering don't exist.

    Be well.

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    Hi there Nancy

    You will see on this forum that morning anxiety is not uncommon, rather normalish..if this is supposed to be normal i dont know.

    But yes i have it to varying degrees each early mornig. I wake up with jolts of doom and gloom, like i dont want to wake up to this scary place, or ..why does everything seem so dark?

    I have better days and ever so slowly its lifting. Im far from no anxiety, but i am moving through guess is that you will also.

    Why this is happening is beyond many of us. Im 54, started meno at 52. Living hell for the past 2 yrs, thats all i will say about that for now.

    I think you will improve though. Its a mystery of meno that only now the cutting edge people are figuring out.


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    Im 56 and soo glad i don't really get the horrible anxiety.

    my biggest problem is the lack of sleep! 2/3 hrs at best and with work its really hard going if only i could rest i think id be able to cope so much better. isnt it bloody tuf in mid 50s xx

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    Hello nanc

    This is so common unfortunately and even on bhrt I get it sometimes. I'm going through a patch of it again now. It's related to cortisol being high in the morning and seratonin being low but it's awful. When I get it, the best thing I've found is to try and burn off as much energy first thing, and it tends to help. So when I can, I get up and first thing I do is go for a brisk walk. It seems to help reset my brain a little. Keep your chin up xx

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