Moving out of Mom's place, I am terrified to my core
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Hello,
I am 29 years old man and I am moving out of my moms place tomorrow. I moved away once before when I was 26 but had to move back due to shady owner.
I have always had a great relationship with my mother, we love the same music, laugh at the same jokes, and like the same movies. I have always had her by my side as one of my best friends.
My home, my moms place has always been a safe haven for me, everything I got home everything felt cozy and it felt like a him instantly. Now, I want to point out I am very much an introvert, I am shy and a quiet person.
I have come to the realization that I have to move out, simple as that. I am too old to still live at home, my brain knows that but my heart still wants to stay at home where I know it's safe. I have been okay with moving out but now when its less than 24 hours before it's time, I am having bad anxiety, close to crying and feeling like I am all alone in the world.
My brother moved out when he was 22 years old and he never shared with me that he felt this way, I literally feel like ending my own life would be better at this point instead of wanting to cry myself to sleep right now.
I started college 1 month ago, that's the reason why I am moving out, Im just hoping that my new apartment will give me a safe feeling, like it feels like home sooner than later. I am only 15 miles away from my mother, from my safe place but its hard anyway.
Just had to share my feelings...please god help me get through this.
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jan34534 palmerx
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I'm sorry you were feeling this way and I know exactly how it feels! I was super close with my mother and never wanted to even go to school because I wanted to stay with her. My parents home was my safe haven because I was also very introverted outside of the house . It's a feeling you just can't explain when you feel safe and protected. This is going to sound crazy but even as an adult when I had my own kids I still would go over there a lot. Part of it was that my parents never moved from the house they brought me home from the hospital to as a newborn. So that house it's self became such a comfort zone for me. Little by little I was able to stay away from home as I went off to college. I was still very quiet and was happy when I went back home for school breaks. Then when I got married I knew I had to make the break for good. It did work out OK because I got busy with my own home and kids. But like I said I always loved going back to that home in to spend time with my parents. Yes, there comes a point where we have to leave the nest but honestly, it was for my own good. It forced me to find my own life and make my own family which I absolutely enjoyed! I think it is healthier when parents and adult kids live in separate homes. You can go back anytime you want to see your mom. It's good for your mom to see you become independent because that's what every parent wants for their child.
An idea is to bring things from home that make you feel comfortable where you are staying at school. Make it feel like your room at home. That's what I did and it really helps! Blankets, pictures, accessories etc.
when you see your mom on school breaks or whenever,it will really make you appreciate each other even more!
you will be fine. Take one day at a time and eventually you will make a few friends. I always choose friends that were more like myself because that gave me some comfort too. You Can always call your mom to whenever you like just to say hi.
so I definitely know how you're feeling but I just wanted to let you know that you can do this and you will see overtime that it's a good thing. You will start developing your own life and future. Just take one day at a time.
if you're ever feeling down, there are some excellent meditations on YouTube for feeling sad, depression, anxiety, how to feel happy,etc. hundreds to choose from!
Please give this time. Focus on your studies and think about how nice it will be to see your mom. You can do both! 😁??
palmerx jan34534
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9999 palmerx
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I'm 25 years old but a female I also have a very close relationship with my mother. I currently still live with her never had I moved out. Yeah me and my mom can talk all day and we joke around. I've always said, "there's no love like that of a parent with their child." Pure Love💖 I agree with what you said. I'm a introvert and quiet person. Social Phobia, GAD, Social Anxiety. My sister moved out when she was 18.
I feel bad still living at home too but I wouldn't want to live alone. Its just me and my mom at home. I give you props for this huge step!💪👏👍You're much stronger than you think. I love my mom alot we're like glue. We're very close. I'm this way too but I may be extreme. I don't think I will ever move out of my house. If something happens to her I would d*e. She's everything too me. Every breath I take is for her. I keep fighting my mind so I won't hurt her. Home is a safe comfortable place. You feel protected. Leaving means being all by yourself and confronting the World. Being independent and doing everything everyone does. Get grocery's, pay bills, go to the store, etc. You may feel alone but you're not alone. Many people feel this exact way when leaving their parents house. I wish I could go back to college I can't handle being close to others. Believe in yourself you can do this!👏Give yourself positive feedback when a worry or your Anxiety arises. Don't worry everything will be alright. Good luck🙏
Don't do anything to yourself you can do it! I know it's very difficult to be out there and feel all alone but you're not. There's many people out there feeling this way too. You're not alone btw your mother is their with you. Not personally but she's always a phone call away and a visit if you need to see her. You have your brother too. Many of us are here too.🙌 I've cried too I get stressed out I don't match with my peers. Those my age they have all their life figured out. They have a family, job, career etc. I don't know my purpose hopefully one day I will find it. I know I have thought of the same thing. Take Care🙏
I agree with Jan right on point👍
9999
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Sorry I didn't mean to write a book lol.😬😭
palmerx 9999
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It is good to hear I am not alone in this situation, thanks for sharing and listening. It means alot <3
palmerx
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