Moving out of Mom's place, I am terrified to my core

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Hello,

I am 29 years old man and I am moving out of my moms place tomorrow. I moved away once before when I was 26 but had to move back due to shady owner.

I have always had a great relationship with my mother, we love the same music, laugh at the same jokes, and like the same movies. I have always had her by my side as one of my best friends. 

My home, my moms place has always been a safe haven for me, everything I got home everything felt cozy and it felt like a him instantly. Now, I want to point out I am very much an introvert, I am shy and a quiet person. 

I have come to the realization that I have to move out, simple as that. I am too old to still live at home, my brain knows that but my heart still wants to stay at home where I know it's safe. I have been okay with moving out but now when its less than 24 hours before it's time, I am having bad anxiety, close to crying and feeling like I am all alone in the world.

My brother moved out when he was 22 years old and he never shared with me that he felt this way, I literally feel like ending my own life would be better at this point instead of wanting to cry myself to sleep right now. 

I started college 1 month ago, that's the reason why I am moving out, Im just hoping that my new apartment will give me a safe feeling, like it feels like home sooner than later. I am only 15 miles away from my mother, from my safe place but its hard anyway.

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     I'm sorry you were feeling this way and I know exactly how it feels! I was super close with my mother and never wanted to even go to school because I wanted to stay with her. My parents home was my safe haven because I was also very  introverted  outside of the house .   It's a feeling you just can't explain when you feel safe and protected. This is going to sound crazy but even as an adult when I had my own kids I still would go over there a lot. Part of it was that my parents  never moved from the house they brought me home from the hospital to as a newborn. So that house it's self became such a comfort zone for me. Little by little I was able to stay  away from home as I went off to college. I was still very quiet and was happy when I went back home for school breaks. Then when I got married I knew I had to make the break  for good. It did work out OK because I got busy with my own home and kids.  But like I said I always loved going back to that home in to  spend time with my parents. Yes, there comes a point where we have to leave the nest but honestly, it was for my own good. It forced me to find my own life and make my own family which I absolutely enjoyed! I think it  is healthier when parents and adult kids live in separate homes. You can go back anytime you want to see your mom. It's good for your mom to see you become independent because that's what every parent wants for their child. 

     An idea is to bring things from home that make you feel comfortable where you are staying at school. Make it feel like your room at home. That's what I did and it really helps!  Blankets, pictures, accessories etc. 

     when you see your mom on school breaks or whenever,it will really make you appreciate each other even more!  

     you will be fine. Take one day at a time and eventually you will make a few friends. I always choose friends that were more like myself because that gave me some comfort too.  You  Can always call your mom to whenever you like just to say hi. 

     so I definitely know how you're feeling but I just wanted to let you know that you can do this and you will see overtime that it's a good thing.  You will start developing your own life and future. Just take one day at a time. 

     if you're ever feeling down, there are some excellent meditations on YouTube for feeling sad, depression, anxiety, how to feel happy,etc.  hundreds to choose from! 

    Please give this time.  Focus on your studies and think about how nice it will be to see your mom. You can do both! 😁??

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    Don't do anything to yourself you can do it! I know it's very difficult to be out there and feel all alone but you're not. There's many people out there feeling this way too. You're not alone btw your mother is their with you. Not personally but she's always a phone call away and a visit if you need to see her. You have your brother too. Many of us are here too.🙌 I've cried too I get stressed out I don't match with my peers. Those my age they have all their life figured out. They have a family, job, career etc. I don't know my purpose hopefully one day I will find it. I know I have thought of the same thing. Take Care🙏

    I agree with Jan right on point👍

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      Sorry I didn't mean to write a book lol.😬😭

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      It is good to hear I am not alone in this situation, thanks for sharing and listening. It means alot <3

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    I have now moved in to my new apartment, hope everything will work out #scared

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