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I'm 30 years old. Have had an absolutely horrendous life. My anxiety is at an all time high. It's physical it's mental it just comes on all the time for no reason I've had enough. I'm dizzy I'm scared of everything I have a 1 year old every time he gets I'll I get really scared call ambulances. It's crippling tbh I hate living like this I'm living in fear most the time.
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ana97778 jade03004
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I know how it feel living in fears of everything is terrible people don't understand because they never been through I m 23 year old and also have a 2 year old son try to not pay attention to your thoughts is really hard but no impossible this work I m dizzy sometimes and it scared me more but try to distract your mind when u get scared first time try not to pay attention to your thoughts be positive ignore that little voice in your head I know is hard but it work I m doing this right now I m having bad thoughts but I m not paying attention to them so they don't scared me but if I do pay attention to them they will scared me and give me anxiety hope this help
jade03004 ana97778
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First of all thank you for replying sounds like your methods are working. I'm really glad I decided to post on here because I no longer feel alone with this issue. It's so scary dealing with this when you have a child. My anxiety is based around my health and my sons health. Do you also have anxiety about this? Xx
ana97778 jade03004
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Yes always worry about my health I don't know how many time I been in doctor and everything always fine is hard. I worry about my son because he don't deserve to have a mother with anxiety but this is life things happen and we need to overcome this is what I did and it worked exposure and respond prevention Therapy here some tips I do 1 try to accept your thoughts but don't pay attention to it just let your thoughts be there come and go but don't pay attention to them don't get scared of them look at them like what they are just thoughts from anxiety is really important to accept your thoughts but try not to get scared when they come in your mind accept them and don't let them scared you in that time you can also do some breathing exercises while doing it also think positive this will soon pass i m overcoming my anxiety soon will be a new person. Be happy 😊 keep thinking positive and when those thoughts finally gone keep thinking positive because negative bring in more negative thoughts when you feel anxious don't fight it don't try to analyze just accept it let it stay with u look at it like your friend it will soon go away when you accept it it go away because you not fighting it all that anxiety want is us to accept her I m telling this really really worked I experienced this but you have too keep doing this everyday day in order to your brain get used to and 2/3 months you will be a new person i been through this a lot time in the past and overcomes it I know 3 months seen far for us right now but think about this rather go 3 months through pain and overcome this and have a happy life than be like this for ever sorry for my English take care
jade03004 ana97778
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Kazmir jade03004
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jade03004 Kazmir
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Hi kazmir,
Thanks for your reply I have dropped hints but they always say book a full appointment. I never find time to go as I'm always anxious about my son having to sit in a place with ill people and wait for me. I'm going to though definitely tomorrow I'm hoping I can get an emergency appointment tomorrow.
Kazmir jade03004
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I'm glad to hear you're planning on going!
dean69894 jade03004
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Hey Jade, hope all is well. Firstly what symptoms do you have? And what's the worst symptom you find dealing with?
I've had anxiety from January this year to still ongoing. It wrecks your life.
I'm 24 now and at uni, but I find how to lower it, have people around you that understands and are a pleasure to be around. Family for me has helped me to keep fighting on. Also try to fill the day and be active, try not to lay back and let it take you over, even if it's a walk get fresh air in and calm your mind.
I also find drinking plenty of water can help keep you calmer, if you have fear and panic come on out of nowhere, drink some water, it can help cool you down.
I hope you all the best of getting through this. It's not easy I know, but definitely surround yourself by people who you love. Take care xxx
jade03004 dean69894
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Thanks so much Dean it's very kind of you to comment. Having anxiety and studying must be really hard. Unfortunately I have no family except my son and partner. I have some supportive friends but I do feel extremely alone with it. I feel like no one understands I mean I dont even understand what this is about. It's a pain in the arse to put it lightly. I'm gonna give all these things ago and hopefully I'll get a grip. Take care xx
dean69894 jade03004
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Not a problem, at times like these you need as many people to be positive to get you thinking more positively.
Yeah it's ruining the uni experience for me a bit, it's hard to get over it as the symptoms are so powerful.
Do you get palpitations, racing hearts? Dizziness? Weakness?
Yeah all I would suggest is to keep close to friends and your child and partner. I have heard that women can suffer from anxiety after having a child? Maybe give that a search?
I wish you all the best because I know what you are going through xx
jade03004 dean69894
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Yes that's why I joined this forum. I'm sorry to hear that Dean. This is a really important time for you and also memorable if your living on campus? Yes I get these horrible symptoms all the time I always feel like I'm gonna die. Even on the rare occasion I go out with friends to pub /clubs I just feel strange like everyone is having a great time and I shouldn't cos any minute something terrible is gonna happen that is out of my control. It has most definitely come on because of the birth of my son. As I said before my life has been horrendous! I was a victim of domestic violence when I was 18. I had 2 children who were removed from me and eventually adopted. I gone through social services they said I can keep my son. I guess the fear of losing him to social services, death all these things go through my mind and it's overwhelming. I also lost my mum to braintumors three years ago. It's been a bit sh*t tbh xx
dean69894 jade03004
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Yeah it's very difficult because I want to look back on my uni experience as happy ones, not like this. The main thing I worried about was loneliness, being 24 and only just recently had a girlfriend which ended not as intended. Because of the loneliness I turned to drinking excessively and was told i had slightly damaged my liver but the doctor had no cause for concern as I'm young and it's only slight. He said it had created anxiety now which sucks as I drank to hide the emotions of being alone. I've had the symptoms of anxiety the past 10-11 months now and I need to get back to normal not just for my sake but my families sake too.
Yeah I understand Jade, I have the same fears of dying etc. The symptoms are that powerful is can mimic the thought of you having a heart attack but really your fine. I honestly believe the best thing you can do when this comes on, repeat in your head that I'm fine, I'll be okay and drink water to cool down.
I understand that's horrendous things that's happened to you, I'm really sorry to hear it too. But at the same time you have something to worry about and make you sad, regarding myself it's just I've never had a girlfriend etc.
With your mother it may take time to get over, and having your partners support will get you through this and also your child will bring you smiles and joy. Try maybe to go out as much as possible, take your child to zoos or Legoland and days out. Their happiness of being loved by you may brush off on you too which will all round keep you happy.
With the abuse I'm really sorry to hear it, it can mentally scar you for life. But the good point is that you've indicated your triggers of what's made you come to this now. I'm told you have to know your triggers then you can handle it. I strongly urge counselling? As I'm doing it now, it's another road to go down to recovery.
I hope you all the best and your family to have a lovely christmas xxx
borderriever jade03004
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As you await an appointment, try Relaxation Techniques MINDFULNESS comes to mind. Books on this life change Technique can be purchased on Amazon.
Your GP may have tapes to lend explaining the Exercises to you
BOB
jade03004 borderriever
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Cheers Bob I'm gonna look into mindfulness.
stacey25656 jade03004
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Hi Jade,
I too suffer with anxiety & always going to a&e I always think I'm having a heart attack or that I have a brain tumour! I'm 29 & it's ruining my life I have had it for 4 years & have tried most things I'm just awaiting on therapy so fingers crossed that works! I'm also doing meditation which I think helps! I don't think there is no cure I think we need to learn to control it!
jade03004 stacey25656
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Yes I get stabbing pains alot near my heart. Also go to A&E alot so glad to hear I'm not alone. My mind literally doesent let me relax I wonder how meditation will work? I'm gonna ask for therapy also. I just hope I don't lose the plot in the mean time xx
stacey25656 jade03004
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Yes I have chest pains as we speak considering going a&e however I did have a ECG on Monday 🙈 It's annoying because doctors etc think it's all in our head but we do 100% get physical symptoms! This is real pain!