My anxiety seems to have ended my marriage

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I am married to a man who loves me so much, as do I love him, the problem is we can't seem to live with each other.  I come from a privileged background where the stress of every day life was never really an issue, he came from an non privileged background having to fight even for normal things. However the stress of money and general things cause my anxiety as I am not used to it, I am not saying this is right any way shape or form. When we got together he was always honest with who he was, maybe I was not, as I wanted a fairytale. I thought he loves me and at that point it was enough for me. However through our 10 years including marriage, both him and me can't accept my anxiety. He can't deal with seeing his wife cry every day as I am never happy, always something to worry about. I should have changed but I never seem to be able or put something else in the way, no excuse I know. But finally I have driven him away and I don't know how to live life anymore. What is the point without him, I am nearly 40, and we love each other. I really can't get my head around this around, I don't seem to have the energy to resolve it. My husband has been trying to help with my anxiety, he is a depression sufferer (which I have not been able to help him with for years now) but I can't even help myself but also can't bear the thought of losing him. Not sure what to do?

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    Humble suggestions.

    (1) Both seek urgent medical/psychological help.

    (2) If you really do love each other and would prefer to remain together if at all possible, both of you seek a family mediation service (possibly Relate) where you may somehow find common ground and maybe accept each others differences..

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      I agree with Archemedes.  To find a life partner who genuinely cares for and loves you is a rare and precious thing.  But it is going to take the both of you to work this out and you need to do it together.  This is just not on you, your partner needs to be involved as well.
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    Archemdes has nailed it. Sweetie please go and see your doctor for some help.x
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    Hi Sarah you 2 need to get out more even if it's a coffee, take him out and both be loving to each other if possible xx

    You both love each other so before it's too late go get your manxx

    Good luck

    Win xxxx

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