My boyfriend didn't turn up for my first doctors appointment.. feel unloved
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I've been feeling depressed for 4 years and finally booked a doctors appointment. I asked my boyfriend if he would accompany me because I was so nervous. I mentioned it several times in the past week and text him before asking what time I should pick him up from the train station. He didn't text back or answer my calls , and I had to go without him. He text me in there saying sorry he forgot and that his phone had broke.
Whilst in the doctors I basically had a breakdown, and reeled everything off. The doctor was lovely, referred me for CBT and took some blood tests. She told me to think about whether I'd like to take medication.
When I came out I felt awful after crying, rang him and asked to come over because I felt so bad. He said his friend was coming over and he had to draw some money out for him ( money for weed probably) and I could come up later. I said okay. He rang back asking if tomorrow was okay instead (probably because they're going to spend the night smoking the weed they've just bought) and he'd treat me to dinner. I told him to forget it and he angrily said I was biting his head off and it was just a suggestion. He never once asked how the appointment had been and if i was okay. He's even just text me how he's sorry but he's had a rough day because he's had deadlines at work etc..I've been struggling to cope with life for the past month. Every doctors appointment he's asked me to go to I've been there, giving him a lifts early in the morning.
I feel so unloved and unsupported. I feel like I should be happier I've finally had the strength to move forward but he's just brought me down so much. Any kind words please.
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robin77577 Char12
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You sound like the mature one in the relationship. Sadly, your BF...maybe not so much! Please don't base your happiness on how someone else treats you. You have to take responsibility for your own happiness. I know you are going through a rough time so it makes it harder to be strong but try to dredge up strength from within. Your BF;s insensitivity is incredible...and it sounds like you are more invested in the relationship than he is. He is more interested in his weed than in how you are feeling. I say, Dump the Bas....! There are plenty of fish in the sea who would treat you a whole lot better.
Get well and be strong, Char!
Robin
Callamatie Char12
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Your boyfriend certainly dosen't seem to be very caring! and you do deserve better.
I think you need to talk to your boyfriend, tell him exactly what you said here, and see what he says.
I hope you get the support and help you need from your gp, and others that love and care for you.
Take care x
dambudzo Char12
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you have to get yourself in a better place for yourself and not for him. concentrate on yourself now and deal with his behaviour when you are stronger. you come first. it is not easy when the person you want support from is not there for you, but it may make you stronger in yourself at the end.
Mercybemine Char12
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