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My boyfriend has herpes..... What should I do????

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annabell33252
annabell33252

Hi, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year but the past 3 months it has been long distance. He recently informed me that he had made a mistake and allowed another female to give him oral sex and she infected him with HSV1. Before this happened we were planning a life together. I have forgiven him and I want to move past this and I also have a 5 year old son from a previous relationship that is also very attached to him as well. I just don't know if I should continue this relationship.

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  • luceal12239
    luceal12239 annabell33252

    Posted

    Forgiveness is great. It surely sets you free too. From experience after a 5 year relationship with a man who cheated on me "by mistake" I learnt forgiveness surely does not mean the relationship ought continue. He risked losing you AND YOUR SON for 5 minutes of fun. Cheating is not a mistake it's a CONSCIOUS PREMEDITATED selfish action. I would move on if I were u.

    • annabell33252
      annabell33252 luceal12239

      Posted

      See that's the thing, I was with my son's dad for 6 years and that's the same reason we broke up because he couldn't be faithful. So I know all too well that moving on is easier said than done especially when a child is involved ??

  • Alphamale
    Alphamale annabell33252

    Posted

    hsv1 will bond you together maybe forever.

    • luceal12239
      luceal12239 annabell33252

      Posted

      So if it made you closer then the HSV is not an issue. Then you need not ask what to do if it's made you closer. The HSV does not sound like that's an issue for you so be with him. But as you said you have been cheated on before the question comes... when is it OK to stay then. When should one move on. I know moving on is easier said than done I have been there. But there is a fine line between forgiveness and staying with someone who is not the best for u AAND forgiveness and moving on because you know u deservebetter. Where does one draw the line.

      Not everyone has a faith they believe in however if you do pray about it and you will know what to do. If prayer is not what you do then you will just have to go with your gut. Best wishes to you

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