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My boyfriend lives 3hours away

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Lilyknightx3
Lilyknightx3

I have suffered with anxiety/depression for as long as i can remember but it has got worse since my boyfriend moved 3 hours away to go to Uni. We had been together for 7 months when he moved and things have been really hard since (been togethet for 11months now) I go from being the happiest girl in the world to being so low and anxious all the time. I'm so scared he's going to realise he ca do so much better and will be so much happier without me in his life at allsad he's always said i'm jusg over thinking things but i just cant help it, i know he would be so much happier with someone else💔

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  • declan_41062
    declan_41062 Lilyknightx3

    Posted

    prob talk to him and tell him how u feel,its prob low self esteem dats making u feel dis way hav u tried medication? ,im sure if he has told u he is happy wit u he is being honest wit u if dats any help
  • liana01735
    liana01735 Lilyknightx3

    Posted

    I agree with Declan, it is hard when you don't know what someone is thinking and we always expect the worst especially if we suffer from depression/anxiety so talk to him. You are still young and life may pull you both in different directions which is fine or it may not either way it wouldn't be the end of the world and there isn't just one person for everyone, that is a myth. I have suffered with depression for many years and my major regret is not seeking help sooner so if you haven't already, tell your doctor how you are feeling and they should talk you through your options for treatment xx
    • Lilyknightx3
      Lilyknightx3 liana01735

      Posted

      I have spoken to him about how i feel but now i feel like i cant because we've had the conversation and i know if i bring up doubt and insecurities again he's just going to become sick of me and just break up with me. He says he loves me and i believe him but i'm still so scared of losing him because i know i'm pushing him further and further away from me and not intentionally because thats the last thing i would ever want to do.sad
    • liana01735
      liana01735 Lilyknightx3

      Posted

      You're driving yourself crazy with this and it isn't good for you. Every relationship comes with the risk of heartache. You can't hang all your happiness on one relationship, there's friends and family who will be there for you no matter what happens. I suggest you spend more times with your friends and focus more on everything else going on in your life as well as him. It is true constantly badgering him will likely drive him away and may make him feel that you don't trust him and I'm sure you're not doing that. I'm sure it would be okay to talk to him again. But please bare in mind that even if you do break up for any reason, it wouldn't be the end of the world and it is something most people go through, often more than once in their lives. And please talk to your doctor about your depression, one of the major symptoms of depression is not being able to put things into perspective and always expecting the worst which is just going to make you stressed and more unhappy.
  • orange12933
    orange12933 Lilyknightx3

    Posted

    Don't think like that.  Every relationship goes through some hard times, that's what makes them stronger and makes you get to know who you are.  At the end of the day you have to be able to stand on your own two feet regardless of whether you are in a relationship or not.  I've had my fair share of relationship disasters but now I seem to have landed myself with a decent one.  What makes our relationship work is that we give each other space and we are always exploring new things together.  Sometimes the less you see someone that when you see that person the more meaningful things are.  Time will tell if the relationship is going to work or not but dont become negative about it at this stage you have to trust each other and keep communicating your feelings to each other.
  • lisalisa67
    lisalisa67 Lilyknightx3

    Posted

    You do know happiness comes from inside you and it should never be an outside source. Enjoy the relationship and dont overthink it. You cant and do not need to control anyone or anything, just exist and focus on your own studies and take one day at a time. Then right person for you will be able to handle your moods. You are jumping to conclusions too much
    • orange12933
      orange12933 lisalisa67

      Posted

      I agree. Don't rely on other people to make you happy. You have to be happy with who you are.
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