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He has broken up with me 3 weeks ago, and is struggling very deeply, it is heartbreaking not only to be apart, but to have watched this happen. I tried to fight for him to stay and to let me help him, and let us work things out. For a few months (since his uncle died in November) we have been arguing, and I was ignorant and thought it was due to us and something wrong with me or the relationship, as he was not honest with how he was really feeling inside, he was just acting distant.
I kept thinking I was doing something wrong, and I guess pushed him too far as he couldn't seem to handle it and he broke up with me saying he needs space to figure his problems out and that he wants to break up and just be alone.
He said hurtful and scary things like, that he doesn't feel romantic love for me anymore, he still cares for me still, but the day after his uncle died, he lost a lot of feeling and that is when he noticed he lost love for me. To me that seems unfair, like he lumped me into that pain and doesn't want to deal with it, and he keeps pushing it out.
He told me he struggled with depression a few years ago, and he got through it on his own. He is very stubborn and would never seek help, and also doesn't have many close people to talk to, and he would never bring it up to anyone. Heck, he didn't even tell me, it's just me putting the pieces together now.
He said he one day wants to feel the way he did about be, but he has changed, and is bitter and cold hearted and he can't change back right now. He feels like a jerk for treating me the way he has and that he doesn't understand how I still want to be with him and that I deserve better. I told him i don't care what he is going through, we are in this together and I support him and love him no matter what. He said there is no compromising that he needs and wants to be alone. That he feels sick thinking about relationships now?? That any lovey-dovey stuff is not what he wants to think about and doesn't want a relationship.
Seems so drastic. This is such a shock to me because for the whole 2 years he was passionate, extremely loving, affectionate, caring, romantic, all the bells and whistles. He told me I was the one for him and that I was his everything. And now, he says that is in the past and he can't feel anything anymore, he is numb, yet he feels pain.
I feel worried for him, and sad that he has to get rid of me to do this. I was always his number 1 and vice versa. We were so in love. I tried working things through but he won't and he is now ignoring me. I feel like this is all my fault. We had some issues in the beginning of our relationship, I was still getting over my ex and talking to my ex at the beginning, so he developed some trust issues with me. (He also has a troubling past in hsi childhood with an abusive abandoning father). But I thought we overcame those, and we were so happy and in love. Now it is all blowing up in my face.
What do I do? Is there hope for us? Will he be okay? Should I try to help him or let him be?
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