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My ex-husband has been in and out of jail since he was 16, I didn't know this before I married him, he told me he got "in trouble" when he was younger, I figured it was something minor or a DUI. I found him doing Ketamine one day, and he told me the truth about all the deep issues he has, big drug addiction, chronic depression, was in jail for 3 years, anxiety and he is also bipolar, and choses not to take medication for it. I was only 23 and I freaked out, filed for divorce and left him, but we haven't been able to leave each other alone completely. I gave him another chance, he wasn't able to get clean so I haven't been romantically with him for over 3 years now, however we do talk on the phone an email. In those 3 years that I left him, he went back to jail 3 times. The last time for 9 months, and he is terrified of facing reality, after 2 years of not talking with each other at all, I wrote him a letter to let him I forgave him and I understood a little bit more about his issues now that I'm older, and that I've done research about it. He is coming out of jail on Friday and I really want to help him, I make 70k a year, he lives with his mom so I'm not concerned about getting him a job, car, phone place to stay and things like that, I am very concerned about his bipolarity, depression and anxiety. I want to make his adapting process as comfortable as possible. So I know that restaurants, crouded places, bringing negative things from the past, and things like should be avoid. Is there anything else that I can do to make him feel comfortable? I feel like everyone is focused on adpating financially after a prisioner comes out, but he has some real mental illnesses, and I know he can't do it on his own, and he will end up going back in no time if he is not in the right enviroment, ANY advice would be very appreciated it, so if someone out here with anxiety, drepression and bipolarity came out of jail, what do you think you wished you had? what would have made your mental adaptation easier when you came out of jail? or what would you have liked to do when you came out?
Thnak you so much!
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