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my gf and i are not sure if she has genital herpes! please help!!! she extreamly depressed

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jack39097
jack39097

i met my gf and she told me immediately she had general herpes. we talked a bit and ive done a bit of research. she says she had 1 outbreak then went to the doctor(not her usual one she saw a random walk in doctor) the docotr took a look and said its herpes no need for a test. she insisted to have a test so he did. He did a blood test it was about a year and a half-2 years since she last had sex(so the blood test from my research should be useable). she had the test a month ago and she has not been given her results (some sources say not all doctors will call you if it comes back negative especially if its a doctor that has no relationship with the patient like a walk in patient only if its positive) the sore she has is only one (i thought herpes is usually a cluster) and its on either the labia minora or labia majora (not a doctor but in that area). also when taking her anti viral meds second outbreak her sore went away within an hour(from what i read it should take a bit longer to take affect) and lastly there are a few things that visually are confused with herpes half of which are affected by antivirals very quickly but does not cure them. honestly i need some advice. i know the first action is to constantly follow up demanding results because 1 month is far longer then whats the usual respond time. also may i post 2 pictures of what the sores look like i have been given permission from my gf shes over my shoulder reading this as i type

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  • nelly123
    nelly123

    Posted

    It is not uncommon to get just one sore, thats all I get. However seems strange that it disappeared within an hour. I'd follow up on the blood tests, another good idea would be to have the sore swob bed that will give you more of an idea
  • jack39097
    jack39097

    Posted

    ya i just met her about a week ago. it just seems like things dont match up she has a sore its definently visable. idk whats worse her realizing that it might not be herpes right around finnally comming to terms or having herpes and not being able to change it. i tend to be very very skeptical about emergency rooms and cheap clinics on doing std tests it seems like something they tend to write off fast and push them out the door especially since herpes is not "life threatening"
  • nelly123
    nelly123

    Posted

    Unfortunately Matt herpes is a virus that can not be cured but it can be well managed that limits the outbreaks you experience, such as eating right and taking vitamins to strengthen your immune system, I went a year before I experienced an outbreak again. I don't think going to the emergency room to be tested is the right idea, go to her local female doctor and get the sore swobbed to be sure and they might even redo a blood test.
  • jack39097
    jack39097

    Posted

    well shes 2 states away from her usual physician. her mom moved very far away because of her dad and her dad which she was staying with is a good person but doesnt work well with living with someone else. so shes on her own and doesnt have a regular doctor she belongs to. she also does not have a car so she cant go whenever she wants. and in response to matt im hoping your just uneducated to the fact of herpes and not trying to get people who are extremely vulnerable and depressed to throw there money at your "magical doctor" mods should pay close attention to him
  • nelly123
    nelly123

    Posted

    That's hard but at least she has you to support her, until it is tested and result come back I wouldn't rule it out that it might not be herpes but even still, as easy it is to say it is just a common skin condition that shouldn't stop her from living the best possible life. I know it's hard to think you get judged for having it but this people who want to judge you ain't worth having as friends or knowing. Ok she can't get to her normal doctor, ensure her that doctors have to keep confidentiality so there may be a lovely female doctor where she lives, from experience I haven't felt with the same doctor and all have been good about it. Definitely go for a swob first as I believe sometimes blood test can't be all reliable
  • jack39097
    jack39097

    Posted

    although you people do downplay this a bit to far its not as bad as society says it is but its just not a simple skin disease. it can cause horrible horrible pain affected in the area you have complications that can lead to higher chances of being infected with other things like hiv and have a weaker immune system. the way people here and in other herpes communitys talk about herpes talk about it like its a little posin ivy you get every so often on your genitals nothing that bad. its pretty bad. still not as bad as the stigma of most people thinking once you get it you must die because its so bad thats not the case at all.
  • nelly123
    nelly123

    Posted

    Not necessarily a weaker immune system as that is what is fighting the virus, overtime you get less frequent outbreaks and that will be the immune system getting stronger, however i hate to think what happens if one day an illness brings down your immune system and how it will effect the herpes. Everyone's experiences with the symptoms is different with only having one sore I don't get the pain so I suppose I do see it as a simple skin condition but yes others with worse symptoms might see it otherwise. Again managing it and changing your lifestyle can limit outbreaks and you can live a semi normal life
  • jack39097
    jack39097

    Posted

    you can live a normal life by changing your lifestyle and manage your limitations even if you get your arm chopped off. does that mean you can just say oooohhh dont overreact being with someone and having a chance your arm getting chopped off isnt a big deal if it happens you can just work around it. extreme comparison but even aids can be managed by change in lifestyle and everything it certainly does not mean it should be played down to such a degree as this site and others are saying. nor should the public be allowed to keep saying this disease is a death sentence. i just feel like people here are down playing the severity just a bit to much
  • nelly123
    nelly123

    Posted

    there is certain 'risks' yes but everyday is a risk you could cross the road and get hit by a bus, herpes is herpes but it's not the worst thing out there, look at those people that die from Cancer, herpes is not a death sentence so why should it be made such a big deal. those risks are minor yes you could get HIV but a person without herpes has the same risk as you. if you look after yourself you shouldn't be at risk nor have to suffer. Going to the doctor getting regular check ups going on suppressive therapy decreases that risk even more. It don't see the severity I lived a year without having an outbreak and for a bit I forgot I even had it cos it didn't change the way I lived my life apart from my sex life
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