My girlfriend has anxiety and depression and is doubting her feelings
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Looking for a bit of advice please. Been with my girlfriend for a year. She has anxiety and depression and sometimes has bad panic attacks. We are in a same sex relationship and since she was young, she has suffered emotional and mental abuse from her family regarding her sexuality. She has a good relationship with them now, but it has contributed to self doubt, guilty feelings about her sexuality and not being normal. She is prescribed anti depressants but she hates the stigma around this and doesn't want to take them. Our relationship has been perfect and she has always been very loving and open about her feelings but sometimes when she feels stressed and under pressure with anything else going on in her life, the overwhelming feeling of panic and anxiety sometimes takes over and its very noticable in the way she acts. She has ended the relationship twice before and doubted her feelings towards me, both times coming back and saying she didn't mean it and doesn't know why she does this.
I noticed she has been struggling lately and there is a lot going on in her life which is making her anxiety and panics worse. She didn't want to talk about it even though we've always been great at communicating. She has ended our relationship again (very abruptly after a lovely weekend together) and has said that she doesn't think she feels the same anymore (this is a week after telling me many times how much she loved me). She has said that there must be something wrong with our relationship due to her trying to push me away on what is 3 occasions now and she has shut down saying she needs to stick to her decision.
I know she's struggling and i've told her i will be here for her but she completely dismisses any hope for our relationship.
I'm looking for a bit of advice as to whether this could be a result of her anxiety and depression and it is making her question why this happens and her feelings about me in general ie: pushing me away and saying her feelings have changed.
She's feeling very low at the moment and i'm not sure if she is taking her medication as prescribed. There's no way i can find this out.
I feel like giving her space is my only option, hoping she'll miss me and our relationship enough to realise she does feel the same, but i'm worried that she has convinced herself, as she has done in the past, that this is going to stop her feelings of panic, anxiety and depression and believe that she has to give up on any relationship because there must be something wrong with it for her to be feeling like this.
Desperate for advice please.
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jan34534 Els824668
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she may be feeling conflicted and confused right now., Which increases anxiety and depression. It would be good to give her space that she needs right now.
It would be helpful if she could speak with a counselor or therapist because this is difficult to do alone. They wouldn’t tell her what to do but they would help her to Sort things out in her mind in order to make the best decision for herself. Not just about your relationship but about anything that’s causing her to feel anxious and depressed in her life.
you probably know the old saying if you love something let it go. If it comes back to you, it’s yours forever. If it doesn’t, then it was never meant to be. as hard as it is, sometimes we just have to let go and wait. and if it doesn’t work out, then we must MoveOn. hopefully you’ll get some answers soon. Take care