My girlfriend is allergic to something around or about me, please help!

Hi there,

I've recently learned a lot about certain things that can cause hives and itching of the skin that are not actually allergies even though they feel just like it. It can happen from deficiencies of certain vitamins as well as from hormones.

I personally experienced this. Itching and hives. Hives especially on my inner thighs. But hives would show up anywhere that I scratched or even where fabric would rub. This happened after I started taking B6 to recover from a deficiency (long story). And b6 affects the hormones estrogen and progesterone, and does a lot of other things. There are vitamins involved with histamine clearance and creation too.

So maybe your girlfriend does have a psychosomatic response but think of it more like a series of chemical reactions when she sees you. Love triggers a bunch of chemicals in the brain. Perhaps your girlfriend doesn't have enough of some nutrient to make all the neurotransmitters without sacrificing something else in her body, leading to the hives.

She could take some vitamins for a while in case that is the issue.

After two months on B6 and other vitamins the itching has gone way down. Zinc also seems to help.

Hi Anon991100, my boyfriend and I has the same problem as you guys. Or almost the same. He had his LASIK surgery a couple of years ago, since then he had eye problems (like stinging pain) everytime I visit him or he visits me here. I am Asian and he is European. I did tried to change all my cosmetics to non-allergic or hypoallergenic ones, but still he is suffering from such pain. It is really frustrating to see him suffer. We also tried to use all anti-allergy detergents, like for very sensitive people but it has helped a bit. Now we are starting to think that he is probably allergic to me. Did you guys found out about what's causing your problem as well? My boyfriend talked to his sister which is a doctor and she said it could probably caused by some oil that I use, but the thing is, I don't use oil on my body and I hate it as well. Does your girlfriend uses such? I hope you guys are getting some light on to it!

Maybe you are used to wearing the allergic perfumes or deodoranst and you havent noticed that? I think its something you probably wear always with and the smell can also make your girlfrend fell ill. Remember about all the chemistry you are using everyday! Shampoo, body lotion, hair condition or tooth paste. In every kind od those things can be allergic stuff. Do you have animals? Because you can have the fur on your clothes! You shouldnt eliminate everythng ,but thing after thing, then you will be sure what is making yours girlfriends allergic at you. Hope you will find the awnser and have good time with your love

Hi Anon991100 me and my girlfriend seem to have similar or the same problem as you.

I'm from Europe and she is from USA. The first time we met she didn't show any symptoms for about 5 days. We were in hotel in Europe together. Then we travelled to another country in Europe and slept in a different hotel, and she woke up with a swollen and red eye. In about 3 days it got really bad, and both her eyes were extremely itchy and red and she had a rash on her face, neck and shoulders.

After 3 more days she went back to US and in about 3-4 days she got better. Then after 3 months she came back to Europe to see me again where we stayed in a different hotel, and her allergy started again. At this point we thought it was detergent in the hotel sheets because it always becomes worse in the morning when she wakes up. This time the allergy started after the first night she woke up with only red eyes that lasted for couple days. Soon after that the skin around her eyes became very itchy and red, and there was some mucus in her eyes. She also began to have a rash on her neck, face and shoulders.  Everything became worse the longer we were there and the rash was slowly spreading to other parts of her body, but it was just mild on those parts. However, she never had any rash on her private parts.

Then she went back to US and once again the rash and her eyes became better in matter of days, but skin around her eyes took about a month to fully heal. We still thought it was the detergent in the hotel sheets.

Now I live with her in US in her house. I am here for less than a week and she already started having red eyes. I washed all my clothes that I brought with her detergent. I use her soap and shampoo and I don't use anything else. And for sure she is not allergic to my shaving gel. I don't think me and my girlfriend have spent as much time together as you and your girlfriend and we are at the beginning of resolving this issue. We will post updates if we find anything useful.

If you find a solution let us know. It would help us a lot.

I think we found what the problem is. Not 100% sure but the treatment is working. It's probably demodex mites that are in my hair. They can also live in the eyelashes and irritate the face skin and other parts of the body.

The treatment that we chose is that I wash my hair every day with Head & Shoulders clinical strength with 1% of Selenium Sulfide, and my girlfriend doesn't have much of the problem with the mites in her hair so she washes her head with the same shampoo twice a week or as needed. On her eyes and on all the rash she uses the combination of olive oil with few drops of tea tree essential oil which kills demodex mites. So far we did it for couple days and it improved a lot.

Where did everyone go? No posts and update in 7 months?

I have the exact same problem with my girlfriend and feel so relieved to read this.

Did anyone find out anything new?

I am in tears reading this. I am so allergic to my boyfriend. Thankfully we have the internet to anonymously trade ideas about being allergic to our lovers. I am going to give him some anti-mite shampoo and tea tree oil and see of that helps. I am praying. I love him and don't want to see it that I am allergic to him. My allergies have been terrible since we have been dating. I had gotten them under control for 5 months before I started dating him. He does live in a somewhat moldy house. It's been remediated to where he says it's fine for him but I am severely allergic to his house to where my throat starts to close and my exposed skin hives. Since I refuse to go to his house, we see each other at my house or a public place. I will never go to his house because it smells damp and moldy still, even slightly from the outside. I didn't want to hurt his feelings saying it was gross so instead I asked him to move because it feels haunted. It does feel both haunted and moldy. He won't move. Recently we tried having him at my place for an extended period of time and we also went out of town. We were using an essential oils blend before that helped my allergies, but recently he started having severe allergies and wheezing and said the blend of oils made him really sick even smelling it. Maybe using just tea tree without any other oils will be okay for him plus head and shoulders which is anti-mite anti-fungal. My intuition says he is carrying around something really bad. I'm not sure if it's hauntedness from his mold-damaged house. I considered some kind of candida or aspergillus. Reading this I'm going to try mite shampoo as a last resort. I do feel like bugs are biting me sometimes and it goes away if he is out of town or I don't see him. I bought him clothes to have different clothes over here. I make him put his clothes and shoes outside. He showers immediately before we see each other and immediately when he comes over. I can't take it anymore. It might not be him that I am allergic to but my intuition says it's him, and he is carrying around the hauntedness from his spooky damp house. Some people pick up on the spooky factor and most don't. 2 women I know were like let me do a background a check on him for you and I didn't influence that as I would never say anything negative about it to anyone who knows us. Intuitively I think the spooky factor has to do with that house. My parents adore him. He's smart, successful, and I fell in love with him very hard. In every other way he is my soul mate. I don't think the mite shampoo is going to fix it but it's worth a try if it solved it for 2 others on this page. I love him and he is wanting to get married. I'm so sad that I am allergic to my boyfriend.