My girlfriend is fuming because im unable to travel.
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Hi all, This saturday my brother, his wife and my girlfriend and her son are flying to germany to visit my sister for 3 days, I told my g/f about a month ago when the trip was arranged that altho I would love to go i dont feel up to travelling, she asked if I minded if she and her son still went, I said by all means go, I want her to go. Ten minutes ago she asked me, quite abruptly, "well are you going to germany Saturday?" I said no, Im still not up to it, and she tore into me saying "I can take the dogs out, I can pop in pub to watch football, I can go shopping with her, why cant u travel to your sister? Is this what were gonna be like, me working and going away and u not working and doing nothin?" These comments have absolutely destroyed me, they have made me feel suicidal. Feeling unable to travel is bad enough, but to have someone I love almost ridicule me has ruined me, she is actually angry at me cos i cant go, I saw my dr on Tuesday and mentioned the trip and even he said " youre ill, u shouldn't be expected to travel abroad if youre suffering with anxiety/ocd/depression". Ive been on cit 8.5 weeks, 8 on 20mg, half a week on 30mg, i felt benefit at the 4 week mark but nothing for thelast 4 weeks. I feel utterly devastated at what has justhappened... luke
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jake12070 Luke7580
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If she does know how bad you can get then its just hard for some to understand things you just can't do or don't feel up to doing. To some travelling is easy and may sound like you just don't want to go with her, let her know that you just can't do it and mention what your doctor said aswell. I'm sure she just said it because she wants you to go and is dissapointed and thought maybe you would change your mind after she accepted you wouldn't for a start, sadly it doesn't work like that.
Let me know how you get on mate!
Luke7580 jake12070
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jake12070 Luke7580
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Its a hard one mate, i hope i didn't come off as i condone what she did, trust me i know how destroying it can be when people flip out at you when you can't help it, i have self harmed a number of times because of it and dealing with it at the minute.
Could just be hard for her seeing you like that, people often react in anger when they don't understand which is the last thing you need. I showed people websites, books and have had people talk to them to explain how i feel and its helped so much but even now they still flip out at me sometimes which puts me back to square one.
London_ridge Luke7580
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Aspinan Luke7580
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Theres a million miles between going to the pub, walking the dogs etc, these are things you do often and within your comfort zone.
travelling is not within your comfort zone, you simply cannot travel against your GP's advise as you wouldn't be covered by any insurance to say the least.
Your simply too I'll to travel and it's a shame your GF cannot see that.
You gave her notice that you would not be going and she accepted that.
if your girl friend is not normally like this then it may be advisable to let her calm down and then apologise to her for not being able to go with her and it hurts you just as much not to be able to go, walking the dogs, pub, shopping is THERAPY as it helps your recovery whereas travelling to Germany is a step too far and would set you back which is something she would not want. Tell her you are doing your best to get better and would love to be able to arrange a full family holiday once you feel well enough but she has to accept the reality of the situation you are in.
Let her know that her comments have really hurt you to the core but understand why she has salud it if she is frustrated or hurt because you can't go but when she returns you will make it up in whatever way you can.
offer to phone her sister and explain that you woukd want nothing more than to go and why you can't go, apologise to her for missing the trip and say perhaps next time you will be fit and well.
hope your okay soon my friend, it's very difficult and I feel for you totally, keep us posted and don't be afraid to reach out for help from friends.
Neil
holly_t Luke7580
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Have you been together a long time? Has she been supportive of you in general? x
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