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My Herpes is debilitating

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at43000
at43000

I recently contracted HSV 2 with a guy I had been seeing for a little over a month. I am in the middle of my first outbreak and it is the worst thing I've ever been through in my life. Sitting hurts, walking is excruciating, I haven't been working for almost a week now and am worried I'll have to take even more time off. The guy I was seeing broke it off with me and I live far away from my parents so I'm pretty much going through this all alone. I don't know what to do anymore about my pain, I literally can't even move without pain.

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  • sbbu15
    sbbu15 at43000

    Posted

    I know how painful and excruciating it is. You can be rest assured your first outbreak will be by far the most painful of them all. After your body will build antibodies to fight off the virus and they won’t be as bad. I know it feels like it’s never going to go away because that’s how I felt. Mine lasted 3 weeks, and nothing I did seemed to help I was so miserable. I highly recommend warm Epsom salt baths, peeing in the shower so the lesions heal and don’t sting. I was pudding a lidocaine cream and it seemed to help the pain but then made the lesions too wet to heal. If your lesions are still exposed try bentonite clay mixed with coconut oil and a dash of tree tree before you go to bed, it will dry it out over night. You will get through this and it will get better. I highly suggest you find someone to talk to, I thankfully had the support of my mom and close friends otherwise it would be so hard to get through. I’m available to talk to privately if you’d like someone to talk to... I spoke with someone that had it and she made me feel so much better and hopeful. 

    • at43000
      at43000 sbbu15

      Posted

      I've been doing the epsom salt baths yesterday and today and that helped sooo much. I'm also trying coconut oil and tea tree oil tonight, so hopefully that helps and doesn't make it worse! thank you so much for your reply <3 

  • Kela63590
    Kela63590 at43000

    Posted

    Hey, calm down, everything is going to be okay. Epson salt baths work wonders I’ve heard. I’ve even heard baking soda works. Did they put you on any antivirals? I heard they help plenty also. I’m so sorry about what you’re going through. Look all on this site. People get diagnosed everyday, so you’re never alone. I know that it’s scary and that it’s painful but it does get better and the first outbreak is the worst and guess what? Some people never have outbreaks again. The guy who gave it to you and upped and left you doesn’t even deserve you. I’m sure you’re amazing. I know how hard it is but understand that it’s not the end of the world. I’ve also heard olive oil can work. Work on building that immune system up! The better your immune system is the better it can keep the virus at bay. My heart really goes out to you, and just know you can always message me. Hoping that you get well soon! 
    • at43000
      at43000 Kela63590

      Posted

      thank you sooo much for this, honestly it brought me to tears. i am doing SO. MUCH. BETTER. today! yesterday and the day before were my worst days, so i think I'm on the mend now. i soaked in the bath 3 times yesterday and did the same today and that really helped a lot. I'm on valacyclovir but didn't get it until i was already in the middle of my outbreak so i think thats why it took awhile to get ahold of it. also, I've never had a cold sore in my life, so I'm wondering if thats why its hitting me so hard. tonight I'm going to try putting coconut oil mixed with tea tree oil on my sores to see if that will speed up the healing! 

  • lina49424
    lina49424 at43000

    Posted

    What a sweetness sweet response.  It made me feel better, that’s for sure!
  • Emma49994
    Emma49994 at43000

    Posted

    Hi the same thing has literally happened to me this week and I’m so devestated and frightened. It is so painful and I’m so scared to tell anyone. Future partners will not want someone with herpes. 
    • at43000
      at43000 Emma49994

      Posted

      I'm so sorry its happening to you too sad try soaking in the tub multiple times a day, even if you don't have epsom salt. it helped me a lot! i was really scared to tell my mom but I'm so glad i did, she makes me feel so much better even though she's far away. if you ever want to talk I'm here! 

  • blue44938
    blue44938 at43000

    Posted

    i am infected since 11 years.. I found a domestic way to prevent outbreaks(OB) and i am sharing that with you here... There is always a trigger which causes OB, that trigger can be physical or due to some diet...

    my trigger is CAFFINE (Coffee, tea, pepsi, colored carbonated drinks, energy drinks, chocolates, smoking and anything having caffine).. when i dont take any caffine at all, there is no outbreak... as soon as i take caffine in any form i suffer outbreak... only other way to protect OB is take oral tablet Acylex daily...

    Now i got this permanent solution, no caffine no OB...

    Note:  please when you leave caffine, give your body two weeks and let any ongoing outbreak to finish, thereafter you can expect this remedy to work...  and dont take caffine for a month or two before you come to conclusion that this dont work in your case...  

    i am telling you people this out of sincerity and i know the misery of this and i dont want others to suffer the way i have suffered....

    Regards..

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