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My husband thinks I'm miserable

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k82260
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Let me starty by saying that my husband has been under a lot of pressure at work lately. On top of that, he's been battling bigger questions and asking himself what he wants to do with his life (he's already successful in his career, but not sure he's happy with what he's doing). It doesn't feel like he's making much progress with all the questioning he's doing and instead, talks about how he wants to quit his job and travel the world. He's even talking about booking a trip with his father in October even though he knows I won't be able to go. I just started a new job and won't have enough time saved to go along with him. 

Lately, he's been very critical of me. He tells me he doesn't like my hair or my clothes, judges me for now going to the gym. He says he's not happy with our sex life, feels like I don't add enough interesting things to his life, and talks about how much he wants to travel. When he says these things, I obviously feel horrible. I feel like I'm becoming his punching bag and he's blaming me for all the things he's not happy about in his life. It's exhausting. 

And he constantly tells me that I'm miserable. Honestly, there's probably some truth to that because being around him lately is exhausting for me. It's awful, but I don't even want to look at him/be around him. I've been having some medical problems these past few months and he hasn't been very supportive. Perfect example: he planned a skiing weeknd for us both and got angry that I didn't want to ski too much because it might trigger back some of the pain. I'm having surgery in a week to correct it. 

How do I deal with this? I feel like he's become so obsessed with what he wants his life to be that he's forgetting there's another person involved? And worse than that, I feel like I'm treated like an obstacle when I don't go along with his plans. I feel like I'm getting lost in all his unhappiness and it's making me question my own well being. 

I think he needs therapy, but he won't go because he's in long term counseling with his mother (yes, I understand how that sounds). Is the solution that I just go to therapy? Once again though, it just feels like I'm dealing with it all on my own. 

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  • bill32607
    bill32607 k82260

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    Remember in the old days at the end of a movie it would say, " The End ". Ever wonder why they felt they had to say that ? Or why they don't say it anymore ? It just might have been some folks needed to told that.
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