My life is worthless
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I feel like my life is worthless. I have nothing to live for. I have been married to my husband for 15 years and have two children. I have no connection to my husband and only married him due to pressure from my mother. My life was ruined from that day onwards. His vile family ruined my career and I have nothing in my life now. I love my children but they are getting older now and need me less. I don't have any friends and feel so lonely. My life is empty and lacks meaning. I really don't know what to do. Before marriage I was working in the city and had friends and a purpose. Now I have nothing to do except housework. My life is empty and seriously I wish I was dead.
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jan34534 Wisteria55
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sorry you are going through this. have you ever gotten any counseling? That could be a first good start.
Everybody’s life has meaning and purpose. You just have to find what it is for yourself.
when I was divorced, I felt completely lost in life. but there was no choice other than to divorce.
My kids were grown and I was alone. I felt like my life has no purpose anymore. I live with my daughter for a couple years because I was having anxiety attacks and panic.
I slipped into depression. but something in the back of my mind told me to keep fighting. Even though my kids are grown, they still love me very much and need me in a different kind of a way. they will Always be my kids .
i decided I wasn’t going to let this destroy my life. I did get counseling which I still do to this day and it’s been very helpful. I also knew that I had to fight for myself and make myself a new life. I had no friends. So I went online and started a ladies coffee group.
It started out slowly with about five women and then gradually grew to over 60!
There were so many lonely women, Single, widowed and married, who were extremely grateful and thanked me for starting this group! I’ve made some nice friends.
The SINGLE BEST thing I did to give me a sense of purpose was to help other people!!I volunteered to help children struggling with reading. What an absolute wonderful feeling when I saw those children with a big smile on their face after they got done reading! It took the focus off of myself and on to others.
SO, I could have sat back and sank further into depression but I decided I wanted to fight for my life. I stopped having a pity party for myself. It’s us that Has to take the first step! NO ONE can do it for us .
Remember that no matter how old your kids get, you are their mother and they love you and want you to be with them for a very long time. they were a huge incentive for me to feel better! and now I am enjoying my grand children!
Take One step at a time. Start with a counselor who can give you some ideas. Things can absolutely get better! ❤
Lavender._.Sss Wisteria55
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sam18386 Wisteria55
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hi wisteria, this sounds dreadful! why can't you ditch your husband? if he is so bad you are not bound to stay? give him an ultimatum, either you go or he does, OR he allows you friends. ask him which it is to be? you need to feel happy, if you don't your life will be miserable and you will not be able to ever break this chain of unhappiness. what do your kids think, surely they would want a happy mum? your life is what you want it to be, nobody but you can choose your life. good luck. x
healthy06102 Wisteria55
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Don't think that you're worthless. There are times when we might feel like that, but it doesn't stay for long. Everything changes and you'll find out you're worth something every single day.