My Mum just died and I am lost and just want a drink

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I was doing so much better, I was only on 2 liters a day..  Then I got the news, she's gone and I couldn't be there with her or make it to services.

     I am so mixed with so many emotions, I cannot even wrap my head around it, she left so suddenly and I do not want to use the drink to freeze my brain of reality.  She was a beautiful amazing woman and my best friend and I don't want to disappoint her by drinking to resolve nothing.

     Please help me find strength to get thru this.

i have been usinglkbrium every 6 hours and as needed Xanax when it gets bad but I just want to throw it all out and drink a full bottlle

sorry, being a Debbie downer but please help before I am stupid

 

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    First I want to say I am so very sorry for your loss. I know the pain of losing your Mom and it is the worst. Do you have other people around or significant other friends you can talk to? Or a support group or person in regards to the drinking? It can be hard to reach out at this time but we all do need the emotional support of others and to lean on them. I don't know if you believe in God or not but I find Him a huge source of strength in these times. Just know that you are not alone and the pain will get better. She would want you to live your life to the fullest and you honour her by being good to yourself in all the best ways. Anyway just wanted to support you and send a vertual hug your way Take care

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    So sorry to hear about your mum in promise it gets a bit better through time I can't say any more that sue hasent said

    I hope you can talk to someone as you need support at this very difficult time in your life

    Please keep us posted and put a message up asctheresxa lot of very nice people on this forum

    Take care

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    Hello, I have not spoken to you before.  I am so sorry to read this and know how desparate you will be. It happened to me with  Mum, Dad and Sister.  This is a very very hard time for you and I would feel exactly like you and know I would give in readily.  I know it is weak - but then I am!!!

    The best thing I have done is coming on to this site, I like that they don't keep pushing AA - which is not for me - but you are sure to get some brilliant responses from caring people who have been there, done it etc.

    Hang in there and wait for help - you will get it - promise.

    G.

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    Really? You are worried about being "Debbie Downer" when your Mum just passed away?  Don't put that extra burden on yourself...we are all here to help each other and I can't think of a WORST possible thing that could happen to anyone. sad

    So scary to lose those we love...of course you are wanting to drink.....you are right your Mum wouldn't want you to continue to "hurt" yourself...but I think she would understand how terribly bad you are hurting right now.

    That does not mean...continue hurting yourself...it means...set a goal for when this will NOT be OK anymore and ask your Mum for help and (God).

     I'm so sorry this has happened...you now have an angel to look over you.

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    Thinking of you...don't give up.

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