My partner has left to get his own home for independence but has began drinking daily.

My partner has type 1 diabetes and has an addiction to alcohol although it has been quite well managed over the last few years. He was drinking most days with bad cravings if he didn't have a drink when I first met him but after encouraging him to do meditation and coming away from a seriously abusive friendship he settled a lot and cravings stopped but still had a fair amount to drink on one or two weekend nights. The only thing that worried me was he would stay up on his own and drink which put him in danger with his diabetes and his mood would become very detached and would upset me. he all but stopped that behaviour when I broke down n told him after finding him on the floor next to a sugary drink I don't know whether consumed enough or not, I thought he was in a coma. it became very rare for this behaviour to resurface, then he saw his abuser on his own one night n drank alone again. This ended in an argument with him self harming with a knife. This was last may. Since then he never drank alone until Christmas. then another incident a month or so ago a friend betrayed him deeply, he drank alone while I was at work and I lost my rag and threw him out. I thought we would sort it out a few days later but he went on a big binge and immediately met someone else who enabled his behaviour. He has since calmed his behaviour and actually is focused on getting his life in order and he knows he's been too dependent on me, I know it's both ways n needs to change. I feel it is changing but while he's homeless, he's staying in sofas etc, he's drinking daily. He won't drink around me n it's been good when I've seen him apart from knowing he'll go back to it when he's left me again. He stopped hanging around with the other person after a week, he knew it was wrong. I feel he's more stable with me, but I'm the only one who's put boundaries on place for him which then is dependence. I feel he needs to create his own boundaries but I'm still scared that he won't and will give up n loose the plot again n end up just living as an addict. I'm pretty sure he won't but it's scary at the moment. I know I must protect myself. I still want him in my life, sober he is a complete joy to be with. I feel like I'm in a catch 22 as seeing him prevents him drinking but in the end it's a dependence on me that needs to break off. A lot of pressure has been taken off but a lot has also been created in some ways.I just need support to let him go at the moment. It's really hard.

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