My Sister Is A Temperamental Narcissist Who Might Be Suffering From Bipolar Disorder

My sister is one of the most temperamental person I have ever met in my life. She is a stereotypical example of a person suffering from narcissistic Machiavellian histrionic antisocial psychopathic personality disorder syndrome. On top of that she is selfish which makes things even more interesting. Everything she says is a lie and she will say anything that would help her in making her more popular or in forwarding her political agenda. She is so fake that her whole life is a plagiarized version of someone else’s life. Her wannabe sophisticated pseudo-intellectual arrogantly ignorant and obliviously naïve behavior signifies her hypocrisy on the highest level of insanity. Her mode of operation revolves around exploitation, manipulation, subjugation and domination. She wants people to listen to her and agree without refuting her in anyway and not give any logical argument that would go against her style of thinking or cause inconvenience to her feelings. She will say what she has to say and then she will go away without asking or listening to your opinion. When she needs or wants something from you she will shamelessly demand it from you without asking whether you have the finances or resources or skill or ability to fulfill this task because she thinks that the whole world is her bloody servant. If you do not obey her she will either analytically bully or emotionally blackmail you.

If you still try to resist then she will get violent and fight you and blame you for making a scene or bringing her distress. If you do her work then she will take it and then disown you as if you never existed. She will just keep on taking and not giving anything in return; not even a simple thank you or a slight gesture of gratefulness. In her whole life she has done absolutely nothing for me and I have never asked her for anything except maybe perhaps trust or respect which unfortunately I didn’t even get in the slightest. She will always portray herself as the innocent victim even when she will mentally and physically abuse me. When a younger sister disrespects and humiliates you like that; life gets really hard in the family. My parents on the other hand have never seen her dark side or pretend as if they haven’t but I know better that they are deliberately trying to ignore the situation because they are stuck in their own devious game of manipulative politics.

I guess the system of arranged marriage usually comes in handy when you have deceptively hypocritical and selfishly materialistic women like my sister who wouldn’t last 8 seconds with a reasonable man who would find her narcissistic behavior absolutely repulsive and would make his way towards the exit with lightning speed. Lucky for women like her she was born in a conservative country like mine that still follows this primitive system of union. She got very lucky and found the dream guy that she always wanted and without going through a single day of hardship in her life and everything offered to her on a golden platter, her knight in shining armor with huge sums of inheritance took her away and she got her ultimate wish or desire fulfilled. This guy had everything and didn’t suffer a single day of hardship. He didn’t had to walk 2 miles to his university or 4 miles to his office like me or work 16 to 18 hours a day to gain his reputation as a man of substance or earn his respect as a leader among his technicians in his field or department. He didn’t have to start from the bottom and work his way towards the top, he didn’t have to study day and night trying to make something of himself while the rest had fun because their fathers and uncles had their backs or they had unlimited contacts and references. He was just another filthy rich spoiled kid whose dad had everything done for him because he paid everybody off and got him a job as a boss of something that he wasn’t even qualified for and didn’t even fulfill the merit by a long shot.

And then he got his trophy wife like my sister to show off or gloat about among his friends. My sister’s qualifications for this marriage were absolutely nothing. There were girls out there who were way more qualified than her just waiting in line. But the only deciding factor was quite obvious. I guess when you are a beautiful woman life just had a way of making space for you. I am not just saying that from observation; you can actually do some research yourself and you will find out that beautiful people according to the scientific definition of beauty and synchronized with the natural theory of selection are well received by people around them. They are thought to be more truthful and honest and wiser and intelligent, even though they might be the exact opposite. People are more generous in giving them the benefit of the doubt and more accommodating in selecting them as suitable partners in marriage. My sister learned the benefits of having a fairer skin and a nice figure. Still I was happy for her and was grateful that she got what she always wanted. She was finally settled and I had fulfilled my duty as the responsible brother to the best of my ability. Just when I thought that everything had worked out for at least one of us and finally I can get back to paying attention to my life, all hell broke loose. 

She just ran back after a little while only to make us realize that the knight in shining armor turns out to be a total douchebag. Why? Because he didn’t play ball like my brother used to. I guess she thought that her husband was also going to pamper her like a princess just like her brother. Well newsflash for you missy; life is not a bed of roses. You can’t have your own cake and eat it too. Besides she’s lucky that her hubby didn’t vomit and commit suicide due to her unbearable revolting narcissistic selfishness. But however you may call it; whether it was irony or poetry she as a matter of fact unfortunately did try to commit suicide while she was with her knight in shining armor. Now I know that I have to be fair but I also know that her husband may not be an angel but she wasn’t as well. Both had done terribly wrong things to each other and if the husband was 40% guilty then she was 60% guilty. I mean for the love of God she made her husband, a grown man cry like a b***h that’s high on melodramatic sentimentality. How do I know this? My mother told me herself; it happened when the issue escalated out of proportion and had to be brought to her which forced her hand to intervene and this opened up a Pandora’s box leading to many secrets that came out into the open revealing many things about her disgraceful attitude towards her husband and how she mentally and physically tortured and brutalized him and what was the status of their relationship.

This was quite explicitly understood that they were going through some serious level of problems and troubles. But this didn’t come as a surprise when I found out that she was exploiting and manipulating him. Although it is still quite shocking that she was able to make a grown many cry. My mother phoned him to talk about the situation and upon mentioning a few embarrassing details including the lies that she told my mother about her romantic or sexual abuse which did not happen and she had no empirical evidence for it, my brother in law suddenly broke into a fit of tearful expression of vulnerability that put my mother in an awkward position, but deep down she knew what could have happened and what would actually be going on, knowing how devious her daughter could be and what would she do in a situation like this but as it usually and almost always happens she refused to admit her unstable temperament and took her side out of irrational loyalty compromising yet again the foundational structure of her moral integrity and blamed everything on him signifying that he was the villain of the story. Nevertheless the divorce happened and even though she came out as the martyr and he took all of the blame; even though that she unfairly dumped him and took a lot of his money, she still did not make an iota of effort or take a sliver of initiative to work on her own self awareness and to make herself a better person in the future. And her parents only made things worse by spoiling her even further. I was obviously involved in all of these matters and I did whatever was required of me. I made all of the arrangements and gave her all of the emotional and psychological support that she required as a loyal and just brother should do but keeping a safe distance as well so that she doesn’t blame her divorce on me because she had a habit of blaming all of her misfortunes on me.

The reason that I keep a respectable distance from her is due to her aggressive and temperamental behavior. When she got married she came to our house one day and started telling me what to do with my job, career, business, trade or life of which she had absolutely no idea because she never gave a damn and she just wanted to blow of some steam and vent her frustration on me using me as a punching bag and picking a fight with me because she knew that no matter what kind of bullying or harassment she did, her parents would always take her side because they were either too stupid or lazy to learn from their mistakes or too selfish and hypocritical to admit that their daughter could be manipulating her own brother because females obviously are absolutely nothing but innocent butterflies. She had absolutely no education or qualification related to my field or department but she wanted to give me her advice after having zero experience of working in any institution, enterprise, incorporative, company, organization or any industry or factory or office or establishment. When I respectively and formally told her that she doesn’t know what she is talking about and that she doesn’t have the right to interfere in my private affairs especially when I being an elder brother have never interfered in yours she got horribly temperamental and terribly violent and started screaming and raging like a psychopathic maniac out of a lunatic asylum.

My father heard the noise and came downstairs only to blame me for everything and started fighting with me and then my mother came and started fighting with me and then my brother came and started fighting with me as well and the whole thing became a battlefield. Only because I wanted to use my right of self determination to decide what I wanted to do with my life. I guess you don’t have any freedom or right of doing anything when you have a family that has a Nazi Marxist communist theocratic mentality or when you have a family that wants to take everything away from you and give you nothing in return. I defended myself effectively and removed all of her privileges of ever being part of my life again. I still kept on talking with her but I understood and learned to keep her at a distance because she could not be trusted, especially after she had betrayed me over and over and again and again. After a little while she came and we went for shopping and after being her designated driver for the whole day and being in full servitude to her luxurious extravagance for a long time, we came back and she decided without my permission to start interfering with my life again, but this time she knew that she could not do so directly so she used the indirect approach and started to play that stereotypical game of manipulation. The reason was very simple; discourage your family member to achieve something less significant that she would not find threatening enough to be jealous with and make him realize that he is just not good enough and he will never get better so he should just admit his defeat and surrender so that she can neutralize her feelings of insecurity and feel good about her mediocre achievements.

This will help her maintain her insignificant reputation by a pretentious methodology that will fuel her tendency of a defensive technique that synchronizes with her lust and greed for power and influence and makes her quench her thirst for her obsessive narcissism. In short she wanted to be the ultimate intellectual with a mirror on the wall that told her exactly what she wanted to hear. She wanted to have all the praise for herself and maintain her title as the golden girl. The idea that someone like me could be better than her in the eyes of her family and relatives was totally unacceptable to her survival. She just could not bear the pain so she had to do something about it. This whole game was started as a political intervention and a psychological manipulation. I understood immediately what she was trying to do and neutralized her dark, evil, morbid, bizarre, sick, twisted, bad and pathetic transgression. When the primary directive of transforming me into her mind slave did not work which she had been doing all of her life before as well, she decided to go for the secondary directive which was mentally preparing me for her exit strategy from her husband’s domain. She as usual began to obtain the personification of the damsel in distress role and wanted me to submit to her illusive repertoire. This technique was obviously well understood by a person of my stature and I immediately deciphered her ultimate moves.

After that it was only a matter of time that she was shown her true self and her devious ambitions that she began to realize that she was finally defeated in the second mission as well. I still kept my approach as neutral as possible and remained fair in listening to her problems and troubles according to their required merits. I told her the truth and fact of the matter at hand and tried to relieve her and gave her the assurance of sincerely praying for the alleviation of her predicament, but I guess even that was not good enough. I didn’t even know what was going on because she was hiding her relationship problems from her whole family because she didn’t want to look less than perfect. After things got out of hand and her in laws phoned my mother and told her about her neurotic bursts and her suicidal attempts to force them to obey her demands and follow her orders without question because whatever she says is always right and anybody who refutes her is an apostate because she is a demigoddess. My mother kept these incidents as a secret and never told anybody including her own family members so I had no possibility of finding out.

But as soon as I decoded the situation’s intensity and potency and her future intentions and ambitions, she ballistically went insane. She thought as if everybody had betrayed her and I was in league with her in laws which was not true at all and was absolutely preposterous. By the time I found out the real story from her own words and joined the pieces together of her mysterious behavior for the past 2 years was I able to understand what was actually happening. She spoke continuously for 8 hours and I listened to everything and then did what was the most appropriate thing to do; save her godforsaken marriage and tell her the truth like any good Samaritan would do in this situation. The issue was very simple she tried to manipulate her husband into absolute servitude for her luxurious extravagance which he could not afford. When she was not able to exploit, manipulate, subjugate or dominate him, she tried to turn him against his family members in order to isolate and make him more vulnerable. When that technique did not work she tried to turn his family against him so that they could alienate or force him to become more subservient. When that technique also did not work she was left with no option but to throw her tantrums and behave like an insecure child. She then made a formulated approach of various strategies and plans and different methodologies and techniques of exploitation, manipulation, subjugation and domination originating from 8 directions.

She played all the dirty games and made all the desperate moves but the family wizened up and they immediately understood what she was doing and neutralized her unfair behavior. They obviously were not as ignorant or weak as my family. Her trigger point was very ironic and poetic at the same time; even though that I told her that everything is going to be all right and I would try to help her and even was willing to offer her my services, she still did not trust me. I believe that the most purest intentions of selfless empathy, altruism, compassion and kindness are given not because it is deserved but because it is needed and it should be done not for the sake of any reward, recognition, retribution or redemption but because it is the right thing to do. My analytics and emotions were untainted and I offered to help her by taking her side, trying to offer orthodox and alternative solutions, looking over all the possibilities and giving her the right to make an informed decision that does not compromise the foundational structure of her moral integrity, trying to give her my empathy, altruism, compassion and kindness, giving her emotional and psychological support, reassuring her that everything is going to be just fine, telling her that she should be patient, offering her my services in both options of either saving or dissolving the marriage and last but not the least giving her my blessing and making a pledge of allegiance with her in trust, respect, loyalty and justice and my genuine desire to submit to the will of God in prayer for her so that her fate could be modified and her suffering could be alleviated but even that was not acceptable to her and she lashed out as a monster that was seduced by the darkest side of the devil and the darkest bottom flame pits of eternal damnation.

She became the vessel of fear and hate and transformed into a zombie robot whose ultimate purpose was to just hurt me by putting all of the blame on me even though I had nothing to do with it and it wasn’t my fault even in the slightest. She brought this on herself by her own doing. She screamed at me and hurled her insulting, patronizing, disrespecting and humiliating statements and blamed me for listening to her for 8 hours. But do you know what is the ultimate punch line or response to this incident by the rest of my family? Quite predictable, they blamed me for everything as usual and believed all of the lies that she was telling them about me. They believed all of the lies she told about her husband as well, even though that she was mentally misbalanced and emotionally unstable and her biochemical instability and hormonal imbalances were going all over the place even then my parents refused to reconsider the situation and even try to think about an alternative side to the story even though that the evidence was quite irrefutable and there were significant level of witnesses on both sides of the families. She tried to slit her wrists for God’s sake but even that was not sufficient for my parents to admit their mistake and apologize for their misinterpretations and aggressively or vigorously advise or suggest her to admit her mistake and apologize for her transgressions as well. She desperately needed psychological help but nobody was willing to admit it.

Ultimately I had to finish my relationship with her permanently because there was no hope left and she wasn’t willing to become self aware and make a conscientious decision to change herself and progress and evolve into a better person. How do I inspire and motivate her to progress and evolve into a better person? What type of psychological disease is she suffering from according to the symptoms she is displaying? How do I make her understand or learn that she might need to get into psychotherapy to make her feel better? Do you think she might be suffering from a bipolar disorder due to the incidence of her mood swings?

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