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i was told last year that my wife of 17 years feels depressed. she told me the last 3 years she has not been happy with our marriage and does not love me anymore. she says we have nothing in common and nothing to talk about. we have 3 children 7-17 and she said this is the only reason she is not leaving me. Although she tells me how much she hates the kids and cant wait not to deal with them anymore..Money is also a big issue, there always seems to not be enough and she cant get a call back about a job. We cant seem to talk about anything else but how she feels. No matter what i say or do she has negative comments or thoughts regarding it. Everytime we hang out by our selves she someone how starts talking negative and the rest of the time is a downhill spiral. I worked 40 hours a week, volunteer and pretty much cook all meals and deal with kids and house issues. I am getting really tired of hearing how bad our marriage, i was completely shocked to hear this as i thought everything was ok, and how much she wants to leave. Sometimes we dont talk for days as it always leads her to being negative and angry. I told her she needed to talk to a professional but she refused untill i got a marriage therapist for us as a couple but she mostly uses the time to vent about her life. I really feel most of our problems are based around her depression causing issues for us. How do i deal with all this and carry on with everything else the rest of the family needs? how or what can/should i do? Seems easier to just let her go before she hurts me more or to the point of no return.
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