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My wife is only 68 in otherwise perfect health, more attractive than most 50-year-olds, but she's losing her memory and I suspect it may be dementia coming on as both her parents died of different versions of dementia.
It began a couple of years or so ago. I noticed that in speaking normally she couldn't think of the name of a person or thing, using pronouns instead; she, he, they, them or that green thing, those machines I wash with, that thing you chop with, etc.
Often she would speak for two minutes about someone and I had no idea who and I would get irritated, thinking she was just being lazy and say "Babe, who in hell are you talking about?" Finally I realized that she couldn't think quick enough for normal speach so I quit griping about it. Now she slows down, trying very hard to name a person, very hesitant and can't really carry on a conversation.
There's other things as well, last week she lost a bank withdrawal of $200. Just never found it. For 45 years she has made me a birthday cake, always German chocolate but yesterday her cake didn't turn out and she came to me confused that she couldn't follow the directions, which are more complicated than other cakes. I had her make a simpler chocolate cake instead and she was happy with that.
She knows she is failing, says everyone thinks she is stupid. She was the primary caregiver for both of her parents so she has known for a long time what she may face.
I try to bring up a Dr's visit to see if there is any treatment available but she refuses, I know she is dreading the diagnosis. There were no treatments for her parents so she assumes nothing is available for her either. I'm sure.
We're Texans and live near an excellent medical center so there is the best of care available. We have Medicare so the expense is not a factor.
I think I can get her in to a Doc for an annual complete physical as neither of us have had one for years. I'm going to get that done, come hell or high water. What should I ask the doc to emphasize in blood work? I understand that declining hormones may cause memory loss. What else should I ask a GP about in a physical?
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