Nalmefene and a hangover free weekend

Hello Alonangel ..Thankyou ! it is great so just hope it continues after years and years of struggling with alcohol thinking I can drink it normally but knowing I cant .I have found the support on here fantastic...so glad I browsed around and found it ...Got the meds online so only really had the usual patient info and I was scared to start the pack ...With advice and support I set off and I now know I am taking themyself correctly for my drinking habits...Christmas looming still feels a bit shivery though ...you take care and thanks for your message 😊

Brilliant stuff, well done.

With regards to the holidays, I started this method late October 2013 so I was still in the early days when Christmas arrived all too quickly.

I was petrified of going off the rails!

Again, google C Three Europe and in the menu on the left hand side, look under Joanna's Journey and then 'Christmas Holidays - TSM Peril?'

I wrote about how it all worked out and compared my holiday drinking to my brothers holiday drinking.  My brother does not have a drink problem and it's quite enlightening to see how compliance and mindfullness meant that my drinking followed almost exactly the same pattern as a 'normal' drinker, and then after the holidays my drinking immediately dropped back to my pre-Christmas drinking levels.

Thankyou Hope4cure I will be staying with this..I wonder how we find out the cause of our problems , sometimes wonder if it's genetic disposition as we have quite a few family members who don't have very controlled drinking and they keep coming through as they grow up. My sister was a heavy irregular binge drinker but she died in 1982 after a binge and left 2 young kids who have both have grown up to be alcoholics One is recovering with AA and support of his cousin who is also a dedicated AA member , my Dad was an alcoholic , my children have a strange disposition to alcohol too

I have let myself down many times the most stupid was starting drinking again 14 years ago after 14 years of sobriety ...Things will change now 😊

Thank you Patricia ..Christmas is a difficult for everyone with alcohol issues isn't it . I damned sure this year I want to enjoy all aspects ...lovely Christmas breakfast feeling clear headed would be a blessing and not getting drunk whilst cooking the dinner lol

As I said to someone before , this Thursday is the real test as it's a works Xmas meal .. xx

OMG yes Christmas morning, hangover, not letting  on, dinner on the go, feeling like death warmed up and again, not letting on, being offered a glass of wine and really thinking, yuk - but because I won't let on, accept it from hubs.  Party hat on, dish up dinner, quick swig in the kitchen, because the wine has kicked in but not letting on!!!!!  

Peeps now sleeping like babies in their chairs with me the only one awake and really angry with myself, but not letting on.  Watching them sleep and peaceful and full and not drunk then looking in the mirror and thinking why?  Another glass of wine to quell the feeling, whilst they sleep, but not letting on.  Good grief the list goes on and all I would want is to be like them.  Well this year I will be and I will join them for a good ole festive snooze.

God bless hunnie - we are in this together x

Bless you Gwen...What you write here  resonates so much with me..it is me too... That dreadful feeling of being hungover  on a Christmas morning wishing it was just another day , struggling to do some kind of breakfast as my old mum is here, struggling with cooking  dinner  feeling like death warmed up, but sadly  not struggling to have that  drink and when  it kicks in  and then the  2nd bottle of wine is  on its way down OMG  noooooo ...Yes that looking in the mirror and asking why ?  and still drinking through the afternoon and onwards...... then Boxing day it all begins again except I go to work with that dreadful forboding hangover. 

This year though Gwen it will be different   We are positive  xxx

Ha, Boxing Day, last year, we had another Xmas lunch on Boxing Day  -

so by about 4ish it had gone down - and so had my wine - hubs had one pint and no more - because I was feeling right on point and very festive (Shiraz Clause I think it was called !!) I suggested asking a couple of our friends round who I know love curry.  So we did - I made a (correct guess) Turkey Curry and they were to come at 8pm - house smelled good and homely and Shiraz Santa also enjoyed it.  Come 7pm - guess who had to go to bed.  I feigned a sore tummy but it did not work and I got a telling off.  I did go to bed and heard them arrive at 8pm but did not dare get up.  Through next few hours, I could hear them chatting and laughing and having a few drinks (oh god no, puke time) and it has never been spoken of again.  I did not apologise when I next saw them and they said nothing - which said everything to me.

I stilll carry that shame now.  I have never told this story to a soul but can do on here. 

This is a rough rough ride we are on, I am just glad of the like minded fam on here who don't give ~ that look ~ when they just don't get you.

Positive is right, I hope we all drop in here on Xmas Day with our Xmas wishes of support.  Special people on here, the like of which I have never had the pleasure of meeting before.

Keep on trucking Nat - rooting for you on Route 66 xxx

And good health to all you other fab guys and galls x

This sure is a bumpy ride Gwen and Christmas is looming all too soon ..I just want things to carry on as well as they have this last couple of weeks....better order some more pills lol they have helped so much so far..My drinking this last few years has been very much hidden , my kids sort of know it can be an issue ,particarly my eldest son but not the full extent.

I.m often telling my sons .they shouldn't drink so much..what a joke..

So glad I stumbled over this site and all you lovely people and we can all be honest together..Believe or one of my closest friends is a recovering alcoholic,we met in rehab 30 odd yrs ago.(when NHS did stuff like that ) . We have both yo yoed a bit over the years but I have convinced her I can drink safely now and leave it at just a couple...what's that all about ! I feel terrible that she believes me but I just can't tell her and I probably never will.

Had my 96 yr old mum.over for dinner today , when I picked her up she waved a 187 ml mini bottle of wine at me asking if I would like it with my dinner ..ha ha No no no thanks it wouldn't have been enough anyway lol and just put me back on the rocky road and back to doing something stupid ...message in a bottle ! Then she wanted to leave some Christmas wine here omg ..I managed to avoid that tactfully ..don't want it here...

Going to see Santa tomorrow with my 5 yr old grandson ....how sweet and sensible is that ..It's so great to have a clear head isn't it and feel up to doing normal stuff

Keep with it Gwen..we are definitely all in this together ..I will definitely be checking in here Christmas day.. we all stand by each other

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God bless hun xxxxxx

Happy days xx

Hi again, you saying about the mini bottle of wine.  My hubs has done his usual bar stocking for Xmas visitors.  It looks like a pub.  Shelves and optics bursting.  And it is always lit up and I  have to pass it before going into the kitchen or back lounge.  Normally, each year, I succumb and trash myself the whole time; it has been stocked for a week and I am still settling  on my two small wines. 

I stood and looked at them today and thought how fab they looked and I so wanted to grab a glass and sneak one from the optic unnoticed.  Why does it not bother him - not fair!!!!!

This is going to be real hard for me - I so don't want to start up again because it will send me back to the heavies night after night.

I love waking up feeling clear headed every morning, so when I look at them all (tonight will be bad as he goes out with the boys and I will be sooo tempted to  have myself a party) but I really don't want that awul dreaded nervous stomach knot I know I will get on waking, because I will be angry - I need to be strong.

This guys, is going to be  a rocky road of a ride.

G.

Oh Gwen 🎅🎅🎅

That's sounds awful to me you having to endure that ..How supportive is your hubby ?

Hang on to that clear headed hangover free wake up Gwen ....It's the most wonderful feeling... Also it helps to remember your last awful drinky drink and how utterly awful it was . Have you thought about any other way forward ?

I have stopped on and off so many times these last few yrs always telling myself it will be ok this time 'will only have a couple ' ..ha ha couple of bottles later ..those dreadful hangovers !! The booze has always won I am.now trying this TSM and taking nalmefene .. I have been going a couple of weeks and so far been having a couple of drinks ( following sound advice from Joanna on here ) and being able to stop ( yay just like normal drinkers) I am pinning a lot of hope on it and so want it to work and be able to have a couple now and then ...It sure takes that urge to carry on drinking away or at least greatly reduces it ...

I have always pretty much been able to have alcohol free days( probs because I have felt so desperate after a binge ) but it's not those days that are the blooming prob 🙃🙃..It's that couple of little glasses I start with....talk about the point of no return !

Shut your eyes to those twinkly lights and tempting optics Gwen ....remember how wonderful that first glass is, such a wonderful friend then it sends you reeling down that helter-skelter skelter to only land with a big bang with no memory and one hell of a head for day .. some friend !

Don't have that one man party ...it just ain't worth it ...Anyway you got mince pies to make and a Turkey to stuff... ..thinking of you my friend x

for days that should have said xx

Well I did not go there, I ignored the optics whispering sweet nothings in my ear.  I am so glad I did, that meant that I could happily and safely drive anywhere I wanted all day instead of having to wait it out.  Clear head it was and I got loads done.  This makes is worth it.

Just had visitors all afternoon and usually that would be the start of the rest of the day and evening.  But I stuck with a glass of water and am glad I did; roll on Christmas Eve shopping and driving.

Now I must go stuff that Turkey lol - thanks for your reply x

I am so pleased .. well done you , oh its so flippin difficult if it's right in your face ..That sober fresh next day feeling is such a good one ... hang on in there girl ! alcohol is so deceptive . I must say I have had cravings too on and off today and they seem to come right out of the blue from the deep recesses of my mind. ... got pretty strong around 4pm..Thank God for the nalmaphene as without that I might have resisted and joined the happy throngs of shoppers in Tesco for some serious stuff for now Christmas and beyond lol ... The craving has passed but I can safely have a couple this evening and no hangover tomorrow ...yippee . Have a great evening 😊😊 N XXX