Need a listening ear?

I hope you dont mind my bad english i am replying from holland,

i undersrand that you are scared its a normal reaction. but your not alone we all feel a bit scared and lonly now and then. can you tell me your fears? 

My fears are that I might not get better as I have had anxiety and depression so long now and can't help thinking it will never go away 

You should not be afraid about not getting better, that makes you forget the progress you have already made. its oke to feel down once in a while it makes us human. you should always keep in mind that there are other people who are in worse conditions. Do not forget the good things in your life. like your family, friends  and children. Don't be to hard on yourself 

I understand and I do have gratitude for the good things in my life. I just want to get well and be able to do normal things like go to work as I'm fed up living in poverty. I want to be comfortable in the company off other people and not anxious because I'm fed up with isolating and being stuck at home all the time it's just no life it's just an existence 

have you ever thought about changing scenery,

Maybe going on a vacation? Sometimes we need to get out of the daily routine? Are you a religous person? 

Yes I would love to go on a vacation but have no money to do things like that. Yes I am religious 

What do you do at the moment and what kinda religion do you follow? im trying to get a broader view of your sitaution so i can understand them better. hope you don't mind all my questions.

Hi nasra

What I do at the moment is try and get out of the House every day go for a walk for example. I don't follow any particular religioun as I believe there is only one God so I don't think it matters about following any particular religion. I was brought up as a catholic I didn't like it because I was all whys told at school ( catholic school) that if I done something wrong God will strike me down. I believe in a forgiving God, not one that punishes as like the Catholics seem to think 

Hi micheal, 

i agree with your views,   Why i asked about religion is, that i sometimes struggle with some mood swings and depressions, doctors can't always provide us with al the answers.

I started researching other religions and what our purpose is in life. i use to be very skeptical about it, but by reading about different beliefs i found a lot of answers. It helped me to become a better person and i started to feel better every day. 

Mostly we are so busy with every day life and the little problems.  that we forget to question why we are here,

Everybody is searching for something, we have a short time to find this. 

Try to get a piece of paper and write down your good traits and bad,

The good things in your life and the bad things in it.

What have you learned about it? 

It helps me sometimes when i lose track of everything,i know it sounds silly.

After you write this down, think about the purpose of your life, what did you do? What do you wanna do and what did you accomplice this. Maybe you'll find out that you have new interesses

Or even see the things you missed and haven't even noticed.

and find a solution and the  cause of your problem

 

Thank you 

I will try all you have said and see how it goes  

Your welcome,

goodluck!

let me know if it helps

Maybe that is his own way in dealing with the sitaution, He thinks by ignoring it there nothing wrong. He doesnt know what to do. 

Give him some time and let it al sink in. Dont worry to much.

The important thing is that you focus on yourself. Maybe have long talk with your husband about other things. Try to keep it positive like going out for dinner or just watching a movie togheter. just lighting up the mood. Sometimes distraction is good.