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So I've had two days with mild anxiety iv been happy started drawing again going out for meals ect been feeling like im finally gripping and getting hold of my own self even applied for a job as I have only ever worked once in my life I'm 22 but now the fears are coming back they have rang me and I can't bring myself to ring them back now I have left hand and finger pains along with throbbing pain in left rib and I'm fearing heart atatck there's no reason for my left hand and fingers to have these pains it's horrible and the rub pain should I even try to ring this job back or do you think the stress of it is doing this ?

I'm really nervous even for the phone call I feel iv failed already I have no self esteem or self confidence anymore I don't know if I've made myself ill again

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    It's natural to feel that way I started back at work not to long ago and was so wound up and worried but I'm now a lot happier it's improving my confidence and keeping my mind off thing you should give it a go anxiety is horrible but you just need to remember nothing is going to happen the fact tht you are saying your getting chest pains and worrying shows that you know it's your anxiety you need to make the steps at some point to getting better even if it doesn't work out at least iv pushed yourself
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      Thank you I really do want to push myself just it hasn't gone I still having chest pain moved to centre now and arm pains and also now breathing gone funny jus scared of I did get a job I would be like this at work and then lose all of my confidence ect I'm pretty sure it's anxoety but like 40% of my mind is telling me heart attack ect .

      Did u have anxiety when u started work again or was it at a end stage of it ?

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      Have you been checked for anything? I still had my anxiety when I started work I only went back part time maybe like a lite cleaning job only working a free days a week couple hours a day would be more suitable baby steps belive me iv felt all they things I still do over the years iv convinced my self iv had every illness going it's hard to explain to someone who hasn't been through it how horrible it is the pains iv had in my chest have have been so intense it's totally stopped me in my tracks I know how scary they can be the hardest bit is accepting it's your anxiety that's the cause of the pains in order to get over also breaking the cycle I think is a big part changing your lifestyle like not sitting about the house not tht I'm saying you do that just going for walk keeping busy getting back to work and then other things take priority over the anxiety
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    Hi Steph, sorry to hear about your condition actually what i beleive its a fear or anxiety you are having right now and your body has already start reacting its kind of fight or flight and its a very common thing when some has anxiety, i have been through this alot and its nothing just relax and try to calm yourself by deep breaths in fresh air but as you have mentioned that your having throbbing pain in ribs and having some other symptoms like getting out of breath or something then seek medical advice otherwise it should be fine by time don't lose hope and be confident P.S i am just a regular guy with same anxiety symtoms so its just a suggestion if you think the problem you are having is not settling down then you should seek medical advice all the best for your job interview God bless you
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      Thank you it hasn't calmed down it not got worse but I feel breathing prob and centre chest ache and arm pains as I said above my minds telling me anxoety but then I have the other half telling me heart attack or something it's been like 3 hours now so sure if it was heart attack it would of happened but I don't know 😐
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    OH sad i felt it once it came on me around 11 am in morning and i had feeling that i am having heart attack and i could not stayed at home i ran out to get oxugen as i was striving hard to breath and it was kinda feeling that my body had forgot to breath so i had to do it by myself like all of a sudden autopilot turned off sad i can understand what you are going through, just get an docs appointment cheers
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    Hi Stephx I think one way that most f us go wrong with anxiety is the language we use to ourselves. The is not my own Idea. I read it but it makes n lot of sense to me! 

    If we talk another "fighting" the anxiety , by using the word fight we create more anxiety! You can't fight and be calm! The operative words should be "accept" and "float" ! Both these words are calming. If you can tell yourself you are accepting what is happening to you and you will float with it till it passes then your anxiety automatically reduces. Can you see how this could help? I didn't say it was easy though it becomes easier with practise. So...you have pain in your ribs? Does it stop you from doing anything? If not then tell yourself you will accept it and float with it for the time being and see how it goes. Same for any other symptom. Give it a go. Believe me if you say it often enough it helps. Better than telling yourself you're having a heart attack surely! Apply it to the job situation too. Good luck! 

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    You have not failed. Ignore that little voice in your brain! 

    This is nerves. We all feel nervous when we go for new jobs. (I say this as it's easy to feel like other people don't feel these feelings, but they do). 

    Take some deep breaths and pick up that phone. Don't think negative thoughts - just pick up the phone, ring them and see what they say. There will never be a right time to go back to work after being out of it - you will always feel nervous. And the more you put it off, the worse the problem will become. 

    I was so nervous when I started a new job after having my child. It is a normal feeling for anyone to feel.

    I very nearly cancelled! But I went and it has been the making of me. I love my job and feel more whole as a result of it. I'm so glad I didn't do what that little voice in my brain was telling me to do.

    Good luck with the new job! biggrin

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