Need advice with dealing with anxiety (long story)
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Hey so I’d like to share my story and hopefully get some advice, because I really don’t know what else to do. So I am a 16 year old boy, with a pretty good life. The problem I have was caused completely by myself. At around 14 ish I was going through puberty, and I got very perverted. I would take pictures of girls butts and try to see up their skirts. I seriously do not know what was going through my head at the time. After I did that stuff and came to my senses I realized how wrong that is and started to hate myself and be completely disgusted with my self. I hated myself so much that I became very depressed. But over time I realized that the person who did those terrible things was not really me, and I needed to let go and forgive myself, because I knew those things were terrible. And it worked, I managed to forgive myself, realize that I was just a stupid kid with raging hormones, and become happy again. But now I have a new problem that I don’t know how to deal with. Anxiety. It’s all I think of now. I constantly worry about things that I know I shouldn’t worry about but I do anyway. I’ll give you some examples of what goes through my head, “What if people ask me if I’ve ever been depressed, do I have to share my story about being a pervert or lie about it? Yeah, I’ll tell them about it and they will understand. Wait, what if they don’t and they think differently of me? What if they think I am a pervert even though I am not? I for one know that I’m not at all but what if they do? Okay, I just won’t tell anybody. But everyone struggles through stuff through their teen years, shouldn’t I share mine?” Etc. etc. etc. Do you see what I mean? These things and more constantly flow through my mind. One part of my mind wants to forget about it completely, and the other wants to tell people about it in the right way, but worries that people won’t understand. I am coming here anonymously because I have absolutely no idea what to do. Please give me some advice, all I want is to be happy again, thanks.
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louise35160 HeyPeoples
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Awww first of all you have too let this go lovely, stop beating yourself up over it everyteen I expect looks at something it natural you said that that was the old you,if you know you don't do it just put it down to a learning curve of life you don't have to explain yourself to nobody we all suffer wiv anxiety lovely I get up every morning thinking all I can do is my best and that's all you can give don't pull your self down ova this hun your a good person help is out there for you if you feel u can't cope mental health is a horrible thing but we all have to cope the best we know howgood luck for the future chin up you will be fine xxx
mark32826 HeyPeoples
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Don't beat yourself up about that! I wouldn't call yourself a pervert - you maybe went a little too far expressing the sexual desire everyone feels in that period of their life. That being said, it did invade the privacy of those involved, but you seem to have realised as you have got older that it was wrong. You certainly aren't the first one to have done something you regret as a teenager, and it seems no one really got hurt by it except you. As for telling people, I would say you should speak to a counsellor if this is bothering you as they are impartial- what you tell everyone else is up to you - but just be honest.
jane75220 HeyPeoples
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I think that youhave to letgo. Everyone has something in their ast even present that they regret this is just another one of them thats all.
Given your age at the time and that teenage years are very difficult with various things going on it is time to put thhis behind you.
Personally I do not think that you need to go into detail.
?There is a saying , don't put yourself down .
Maybe your anxiety centresaround the fear that you may do something again or something worse. However you sound sincere and remorseful soI do not think that you would rik your liberty by committing ANY kind of offence.
I feel that you should learn to forgive yourself.
jane75220 HeyPeoples
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Audio ads for Dragon keep interrupting these postings. It is very annoying.
I was saying that I do not think you should beat yourself over this episode during your teenage years which are notoriously difficult for everyone.
If you are fearful that you cannot control your urges and are concerned about doing something more serious then perhaps you do need professional advice. However that could be detrimental leading to more anxiety on your part for sharing the info elsewhere. It is a dilemma I would play it by ear but it may take while to learn to stop beating yourself up.