Need an anti-anxiety med but dont know which one

hi im 34 yo male

am pretty pro-active, but am realizing my whole life has been corrupted or burdened by anxiety, mostly social anxiety

im not really depressive but i do tend to ponder too much on the darkness of things

in the pressures of social interaction i tend to take the avoidance road, am overly self conscience, doubt myself too much and worry about things that are just unnecessary. but yet am highly liked in the community and come across as an impressive figure. unfortunately my anxiety causes me to become strange and un-articulate and people then find me to be odd

anyways i recently tried citalopram, and the growing sense of having minimal anxiety was fantastic. but the drowsiness, the lack of sleep, the cotton mouth, the swollen throat, the glassy sleepy eyes and face, i simply couldnt continue on the drug and have now stopped after 2 weeks on it

i just need something very light, but i fear more meds means more sedation and as a sportsperson i cant take being half asleep and unpresentable all day. id rather be anxious 

could someone recommend a possible treatment that might work, thats very mild and light

thanks for any help 

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